Wedding Day was a disaster...

First off, congratulations! It must feel amazing to finally be married to your man, even if the day was less than stellar. I am very sorry to hear that your friendship with your MOH is over. I want to punch her in the face for you! My first thought is that she is jealous. Your married, and she's not. You are starting a new chapter of your life with your husband, maybe having babies soon. She is lying her way through her best friend's wedding so she can leave early with her boyfriend?? Nope! You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. I know that sucks to hear about your best friend (trust me, I know) but you are better off. I also am a believer in re-do's. Personally I would have a small ceremony on your first anniversary or redo the whole thing on your fifth. You seem to have a great attitude on remembering the important thing, YOU GOT MARRIED!!!

Sorry to hear you had so much unnecessary drama surrounding your day.... can't believe how selfish your MOH was!!! It also sounds like a lot went right...Your DH, your speech, your awesome cake ball cake, the DJ stepping up to the plate to do his job right for you, etc. Congrats and the best part is it's only one day... probably best that your MOH wasn't in most of the wedding party pics. I had a friend that purposely made sure one of her BM & GM was not called over for the pro pics... she didn't want the memories after all the experiences leading up to the wedding with them.

Weirdly, it seems like MOHs think it's all about them. I have stood in for MOHs because they're too busy playing with their kids or husbands or just flaking out.

Remind your girls that the phrase is MAID of honor for a reason - it's a lot of responsibility! One of my friends got her money's worth out of me - but it definitely made me not want to be or have a MOH ever again!

I agree with Kim J. I want to kick your moh's ass!

So sorry for all that went wrong! Thank you though for sharing your experience and all your advice.

Know it's after the fact, but have you considered speaking to her and asking her why she did the things she did? I imagine the answer is jealous, but maybe it will help you feel a bit better to have the answer at least.

Next year plan a vacation with your fabulous DH to somewhere romantic, just the two of you and do a small little renewal and call it your elopement. Go to wine country, or the Bahamas or a foreign country you've always wanted to visit. Take your wedding dress and do it over exactly how you want it, just the two of you and maybe an officiant. Write your own vows, stay in a wonderful hotel room for a few days and don't tell anyone else what you are doing or planning.

I'm sorry it didn't turn out how you planned but at least you now have a your DH. Keep your chin up girl, you can't control other people's actions, but you can control their affect on you.

Congrats on becoming a Mrs...sorry to hear about the craziness from your day.

Wooooow. That was a disaster! But now all you can do is laugh about it. Sorry you had so many problems. At least it's all over now and you can just worry about being married!

I have already had 2 people drop out of the wedding party and am honestly worried that my sister might flake. She says she won't but she has a temper so I just don't know. As far as unwanted guests, I would not have allowed the boyfriend to come. The only person invited that I don't want there is FH's birthmom, and she is only going to be there because she is family.