Wedding dilemma

Honestly I’d just go for it. If you really wanna get married that date. I would just get the dress to fit bigger. Or one where the belly can grow and it wouldn’t be a problem.

This is completely a personal decision. I had my first child in April and towards the end I started having complications so I can't imagine wanting to have a wedding on top of being pregnant. But it also sounds like of you keep pushing it back because of pregnancy and wanting to be in shape you might not ever get married unless you stop having children or try a different method of birth control.

View Quoted Comment Hi Hannah! I know I really should just go for it like you said. But I just can’t imagine walking down the aisle with a big pregnancy belly! And what about my bachelorette party?

View Quoted Comment Hi Veronica! I hadn’t even thought about pregnancy complications because my first pregnancy went so smooth! But the stress of planning a wedding! But that’s what I’m afraid of! That this could happen again and I’d never end up getting married! Maybe after I have this baby we should try living apart until the wedding. What do you think?

View Quoted Comment I don't think you need to go to that extremely, but I would practice better pregnancy prevention such as the pill, an IUD, etc.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Veronica! I don’t really want to do that either! But I’ve always been afraid of the IUD! What’s it like?

View Quoted Comment Well from what I am doing. For example my bachelorette party we are getting our nails done and going for lunch. I don’t drink so we decided to make a day of it.

View Quoted Comment I really want to wear something really really cute for my bachelorette! I don’t think I could do that with a big pregnancy belly! And I want to be a cute bride!

View Quoted Comment I had first child in April and have not gone back on birth control for health reasons. I've also never had an IUD, but unless you are okay with possibly getting pregnant again or just not having sex then you'll have to pick some type of birth control because I don't think living apart is the answer because it wouldn't be fair to your fiance or your children.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Veronica! No it wouldn’t be fair to my fiancé or my children to live apart. And honestly I don’t think not having sex is a realistic option! I’ve never had the IUD but the funny thing is we were using birth control this last time!

View Quoted Comment I sure hope you are able to figure out an option that works best for you and your family and congratulations on your new baby 🙂 do you know the gender yet?

View Quoted Comment Thanks Veronica! I don’t know yet but I’m hoping it’s another girl. My daughter is such an angel! What I’m seriously thinking about doing is just doing it legally and then doing the big celebration later. Do you think that’s right to do?

View Quoted Comment That's always an option, but you have to decide what's best for you.

I think living apart with two kids I’d a bit extreme. I would say just use birth control and other forms of protection so that you stop having kids. If you don’t want to plan a wedding while pregnant, I say you should wait. Or get married now and have a celebration of marriage later. Your marriage is much more important than your bachelorette party! And there are ways to have a fun sober bachelorette party. I did with my first marriage and I plan to again with my second if getting married at 8 months pregnant is something you wanna do.

Awww congratulations 🥰 that's completely up to you & your fiancé though!!!

You don't have to drink at the Bachelorette party, you could do a spa day. Like what are things you find really fun? I say that like some have mentioned that there could be pregnancy complications as well as discomfort. I know women who had a easy first pregnancy and was sick to their stomach and felt tired throughout the whole second pregnancy. If you aren't going to do more to prevent pregnancy the next time, then you may want to go forward with your wedding otherwise like you said you may not have one. Also there are millions of contraception out there, you should talk to your doctor about all your options.

Id move the wedding up and do it sooner before you get too far along! But I'm an impatient bride haha, I wouldn't want to wait longer. Congrats on baby #2!

*Side note.. I loved my IUD.. til it migrated out of place without our knowledge, and along came son #2 haha. Otherwise, the best birth control I've used.

Only you can decide…but I could not fathom walking down the aisle 8 months pregnant. I think getting the legal aspect taken care of would help take off the pressure. You could still have a ceremony or a party any time after you have had the baby. Who cares if you are already legally married? I am sure friends and family would still enjoy every minute of it.

Would you ever consider tubal ligation? Are you wanting more children?