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Just Said Yes September 2024

Wedding dress identity crisis

Corinne, on January 4, 2024 at 9:49 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 9

Hello all, I am hoping to get some advice about my wedding dress as I feel like I'm losing my mind a little. I went to try on dresses on 12/23/23 in the city where my fiance's family lives as we were in town for the holidays and I loved the bridal shop. Experience was great! I tried on maybe 10 dresses and had my mom, MIL and maid of honor on video chat. It was difficult because all the dresses looked really great on me and I loved most of them. I narrowed it down to two, both of which I really loved and were quite different. One was lacy, soft aline, ivory over champagne coloring. The other was a soft ballgown and was a wine color. I originally went in wanting some, or full color to the dress. I ended up purchasing the white one because it was beautiful and the people in my group seemed to like it the best (i.e., felt it was most flattering). Fast forward one week and I couldn't stop looking at pictures of the wine colored one and sort of regretting not getting it. So I called the store to see if they could change the order since it was the same bridal designer. They said they could and it wasn't a problem so that's what I did. Later that night my fiance was expressing that he had like the white one more because he isn't a fan of ballgowns so now I'm feeling like maybe I've made a huge mistake and will end up with something he hates and people don't find flattering on me. I'm considering calling and being a huge pain in the ass to switch it back. I'm never usually this crazy or have difficulty making decisions so I'm feeling very distressed. Any advice appreciated.

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Latest activity by Skylar, on January 9, 2024 at 8:49 PM
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    CM ·
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    Photos would help if your main concern is soliciting opinions. While everyone will tell you to get what you like, all else being equal in your place I'd probably opt for something that your fiance won't actively dislike, especially if you've already let him see the dresses. Are you sure people aren't biased toward the A line dress because it's also a more traditional color? Do you generally trust the taste and opinions of the people you were consulting? Bottom line, no one, including your fiance can tell you what to choose. I wouldn't worry about calling the shop to change the order if that's what you ultimately decide to do.

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    Just Said Yes September 2024
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    Wedding dress identity crisis 1

    You mean you wouldn't worry about being a nuisance to them or I shouldn't change again? I feel so bad that I'm being really difficult with them. I've attached photos of the two for comparison. Also I do think that certain people are put off by the nontraditional color.
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    Just Said Yes August 2024
    Erin ·
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    I agree. It's your decision, no need to worry about calling the store. Consider comfort, theme, and venue, but trust your gut. Pick a dress that makes you feel amazing!!

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    I meant that I wouldn't worry about being a nuisance. If you're soliciting opinions, and putting color totally aside, I have to agree with the consensus. I think the ball gown tends to swallow you up and hides your beautiful figure. The one on the right looks practically made for you.

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    I vote for the wine colored one. I think your figure looks fantastic and plus, you keep dreaming about it. Go with your instincts. Grooms love a confident, happy bride no matter what she's wearing on the wedding day. Also, to add, the white dress has a train that will be bustled for most of the night so the image in the photo isn't really the dress you'll be wearing. Or you could cut it off at floor length but that would change the drama you were trying to achieve.

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    Both are gorgeous!!! If it's in your budget, you could even wear both (one to your ceremony, the other to the reception)
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    It's 2024, there's no need to be traditional. It's your wedding, your the bride. Honestly, in my opinion the wine colored one looks best on you. My fiance wants Mr to wear a coral colored dress because to him that color looks beautiful on me. He didn't even expect me to wear a traditional wedding dress because he knows I like to be different, non traditional. Not every bride wears white or ivory anymore. There's actually a lot whom wear black dresses. S0, bottom line, wear what you feel the best in, wear what makes you most happy. And your not the only one who second guesses their first choice. I've actually had the same feeling, going back and forth looking at photos. Someone told me to delete the photos, so I did and now I'm fully confident in my original choice. Good luck girl, always be you, always do you.
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    Personal opinion: the white dress looks beautiful on you, but the wine colored dress is a showstopper! Either way though, they both look absolutely stunning on you. So the only “wrong” choice you could make is choosing a dress for someone else. Choose whichever you feel most comfortable and beautiful in.
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    A coral dress is perfect for your summer wedding! Do you have it yet?
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