Wedding dress pictures shared

I went wedding dress shopping this past week with my mom, maid of honor, and future mother-in-law. It was my very first experience dress shopping and my party asked if they could take pictures. I said it was fine, because honestly I wanted to see the dresses in photos as well. I ended up saying yes to the dress! On the way home from dress shopping, I told them all to please not share any photos with anyone and that I didn’t want anyone to see the pictures of my dress. My Future mother-in-law and maid of honor both promised they wouldn’t. My mother spoke up and said “you know I have to show ___”. I reiterated that I didn’t want anyone to see them not even the person she had mentioned. I thought I had made it clear by my reaction when she said that. Later that night when it was just the two of us, I mentioned it again to please not share any photos of my wedding dress. She said she wouldn’t. Today she went to lunch with 5 women that she used to work with and all are invited to my wedding per her request. When she got back I asked her point blank if she showed them any pictures. She said “I did. I had to.” I made it clear that I was upset and reminded her of what I told her earlier and that I wish she hadn’t done that because they were all invited to the wedding, so they would see it then. She made it seem like it wasn’t that big of a deal or like she hadn’t done anything wrong by saying “___ isn’t even going to be able to come to the wedding, so I had to show her”. I reminded her that it didn’t matter, she would see the photos just like everyone else. These group of ladies weren’t even the person she mentioned she had to show on the way home from dress shopping. She had two best friends, so I feel certain she shared a picture with them as well.


I was upset, but let it go. All day I’ve been internalizing it and growing more upset as I think about it. I feel like this was something special I wanted to share with a small group of people and that it was only meant to be seen by those people I gave permission to. I am buying my own dress, it’s the only wedding dress I will get to buy and wear, the only wedding I will have, so it honestly feels like something special was taken from me because it’s being shared when I specifically made it clear that I didn’t want anyone to see it. I wanted the guests who are invited to see me in my wedding dress the same time my husband sees me in it.
Only a select few were going to get to see it beforehand (the people invited to shop, my other bridal party members if they wanted, and my dad). I showed my sister who is a bridesmaid, but didn’t come shopping because of Covid restrictions and I showed my dad. I asked both before hand if they wanted to see or wait. I didn’t mind them seeing it because I am close to them. I asked another bridesmaid, but she said she wanted to wait to see it in person. I just feel like she didn’t have the right to share it with others, but it’s making me more upset that she knew I didn’t want it shared but did it anyways.
I feel like I need to sit down and say something, because it’s eating me up inside. My feelings are extremely hurt and I feel like our trust has been broken. I’m very close with my mom and I’ve always been able to count on her, but I feel betrayed and that’s upsetting me more than anything. Am I being silly? Do I just need to get over it? Does it matter that others saw it?