Wedding dresses and Husband/Partner's Feelings/Opinions

I bought an all-over lace dress & as some point afterwards, FH said something with eyeroll about me probably picking out a dress with a bunch of lace on it. LOL

It's a beautiful dress, I'll be in it...he'll be fine : )

ETA And remember it's not just about the dress on the wedding day. FH will be seeing YOU all glam'd up, family/friends celebrating with you, etc... Just like how brides try on styles they would never in million years wear-n-bam, they got their dress!

I had a friebd whos fiance saw the dress and absolutely hated it. She kept it and wore it and he didnt even notice it was the same dress he said he hated. And most men i have asked dont even remember the dress she was wearing just that they looked like the most beautiful person

My husband said he didn't like strapless or ballgowns. I had a strapless ballgown and he loved it. Guys often think they don't like something but once they see it on you their opinion changes

Mine hasn't seen it and he has no idea what it looks like. Honestly I don't think on that day, as your walking down the aisle he's going to be saying to himself "wow I hate that dress". He's going to be thinking "wow she's so beautiful, I love her, I'm so lucky". He's going to be so happy to see you and it will be such a beautiful moment. I wouldn't stress about it right now. Buy the dress you love and he will love it too.

FH and I talked extensively about what kind of dress I wanted, and things that he definitely wanted me to avoid. He usually dresses me for fancy events like the Tony Awards, so I was nervous about shopping without him. But I think he's going to be thrilled with what I ended up with.

This is all in line with what I was thinking in my head. They can say they don't like xyz, but when they see us in it everything changes. I could say I'm gonna get an ivory column dress and he'd be like ew and then I can put the thing I described on and he'd be like wow.

I was just curious because I'm watching SYTTD and so many fiance's and family members have such strong opinions about the bride's dress and I'm the one yelling at the tv "who cares what you think Aunt Rhonda, it's not FOR you" and "Why is he even there, he doesn't know anything about dressing a woman's body gtfoh" and I wondered how many of us IRL had had these experiences and how they actually really turned out for ya'll.

I didn't ask his opinion and I don't care. It's MY dress. It's what I feel comfortable in. I'm going to look fucking awesome no matter what.

If FH legitimately hated my dress it would be in his best interest to keep it to himself. He's not seeing my dress before the wedding and I'm undecided about first looks etc so he would be seeing it for the first time at the altar.

I've discussed styles and whatnot with FH, and when I find a designer I like I'll send a few pictures to him and we'll talk about it so I definitely know what his preferences are. He's better at dressing me than I am, which gets uncomfortable sometimes, but it would probably be easier for me to shop for the dress with him. Funny thing is, he doesn't even want to do a first look because he doesn't want to see the dress until I walk down the aisle.

If he is very opinionated then I'm sure it has happen. And I'm an addict for SYTTD also...but don't worry he will love you and the dress!!!

I took my guy with me dress shopping - he has seen the dress and he loves it

i (personally) don't think that will take away from when i get all dolled up in it

but my guy will tell me if he doesn't like something so i would steer clear because i'd hate for him to look at the pics later and just not like how i looked

So I bought my first dress in June of last year and ended up exchanging it for another one this January because I didn't feel bridal in it. I showed my FH my original dress and he didn't like it. He said that on our wedding day he would have thought it was the most beautiful dress, but was glad I had also found another one. Your FH is going to think you're stunning no matter what though

SYTTD is all theatrics, as much as I like the show too! They're told to play up the drama, be difficult, etc.

@Laura TBH I'm only there for the dresses. They could do a silent version of just people trying on dresses and I'd still binge watch it.

My FH and I had the same taste in wedding dresses. I would describe my general style as simplistic and feminine and knew I wanted my dress to reflect that, so I went with a sheath tulle dress (but it has a Swiss dot type pattern).

After I bought my dress FH and I were actually looking at a thread on here where girls were posting their dresses and he said they were all pretty, but thay he couldn't see me in a ballgown, mermaid, etc. and that he wasn't a fan of lace. It definitely made me feel good that I followed those same general guidelines and that I chose the tulle version of my dress instead of the lace

My FH likes looking at the wedding stuff with me on Pinterest and so one night I handed him the tablet and told him to pin wedding dresses he liked. They were all form fitting or all over lace. It was all dresses I would pick for myself.

Totally agreed w Melissa!

Before dress shopping I asked him if there was anything he would like or hate to see. His response was "get something u like & are comfortable in, you will be the best thing about that dress". I've since showed him THEE dress plus a few others but he wasn't aware that my dress was in that bunch & he wasn't crazy about it. Oh well. I'm sure he won't care.

Mine hasn't seen it yet of course but I know he'll love it. It's something different about them seeing us all glamed up.

Alyssa j, I'm always watching that show. I be like why you bring all these people whose opinion is more on what they like. Not about the brides feeling.