Wedding Event Party and House Warming

A shower has to be hosted by someone else in your honor, as does any gift giving party. It's not something you throw yourselves.

Post wedding housewarming sounds more appropriate.

If you're hoping to get gifts off your registry at this housewarming like you do at a shower, then it's definitely not appropriate to host your own. And I don't know how you'd have a housewarming party without being the host, given that it's your home, so I think you'd have to forego any sort of registry in order to do that.

I'm fine without any of the gifts. Like I said, it's going to be informal. If I combine with the bridal shower it won't really be the typical bridal shower (women only, games, speeches, etc). I wanted more of an informal bridal shower anyways. Saw it more as a way to hang out before the wedding since the wedding is formal, do something a little different. Just wanted to be able to somehow put the wedding and our new place together (kind of kill two birds with one stone). But I guess I'll just do it the day after the wedding or something.

Well, most pre-wedding events are held by others in honor of the couple, so there's no way you could do this etiquette wise. However, just having a regular housewarming is fine! I actually hosted a Pure Romance party at my house a week ago and we used it as a way to welcome people into my new apartment and to share drinks and snacks. It was completely separate from anything wedding related, but it was a fun way to host people. Maybe you could do something like that?