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Wedding Gift Giving… An Eye for an Eye?

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Sarahdell, on April 7, 2015 at 7:08 AM

After planning and living through my own wedding, I have acquired some knowledge about people close to me and their shitty wedding etiquette (gifting, RSVPs, lateness, general being a pain in the ass). I have three weddings this year and one of the couples getting married gave us nothing for the...

I have three weddings this year and one of the couples getting married gave us nothing for the wedding and a $10 gift for the shower. I know it’s not about the gift. I didn’t want anything huge and expensive… just wondering how to “gift” them in return.

Married (or showered) ladies – what are you doing with the dangerous knowledge of what people gifted you? Do you reciprocate according to how they gifted first?

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FFW · on April 7, 2015 at 12:55 PM
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I would probably give something off the registry I like, verse going off of price. I don't like giving cash to ppl. FH & I have that in common. I know when I get cash it goes in the bank and I use it most likely for bills or food. But I wouldn't look at the price of the gift they gave me. You never know why they did that, sometimes people aren't being cheap, that maybe all the room in the budget this month. I know I've had months like that.
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Kris E · on April 7, 2015 at 1:09 PM
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I usually give what is comfortable, but I will save up and buy something nicer for someone I am closer with.
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Nicola · on April 7, 2015 at 1:23 PM
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I have to just add one thing - I don't understand the idea of an 'offensively low' gift. A gift is a gift regardless of what it is.

Someone doesn't have to give anything. If they give $10 or $100 dollars that is still a gift that should be received graciously.

It's like how I look at charitable giving. It is a choice of the person giving - even if they only put a few coins in the bucket of someone collecting they still gave something and that should be appreciated.

Gift giving is the same. I almost always gift more to my family than I get in return. After 20 years of always giving twice what I get have I changed my habits? No. I can afford more than them and I enjoy the process of picking out gifts for someone.

I find it a strange thing to be offended or upset by a low gift or no gift at all. It suggests to me an expectation of receiving a gift - which I was always taught from childhood upwards was the worst of bad manners.
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