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MrsC
Devoted June 2023

Wedding Gift - How Much?

MrsC, on August 25, 2023 at 5:18 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 25

Next month, hubby and I will attend the wedding of his boss' son. We are on very good terms with the boss, let's call him "Vinny", and his wife and though we don't see them much socially we are all very cordial and they are lovely people as are the bridal couple whom we've met once or twice. Vinny...

Next month, hubby and I will attend the wedding of his boss' son. We are on very good terms with the boss, let's call him "Vinny", and his wife and though we don't see them much socially we are all very cordial and they are lovely people as are the bridal couple whom we've met once or twice. Vinny and hubby are good friends on the job since hubby started there about 6 years ago. Vinny helps hubby with emergency time off when needed, OT, getting equipment for the job (even needed items for our home during a recent weather emergency). Hubby makes Vinny look good to his superiors, with his excellent connections and reputation in the field and his vast knowledge and experience. And we 2 couples have been very helpful and supportive to each other during all our recent health issues. We want to be as generous as we can afford with a cash gift to Vinny's son and his bride. The wedding is a Sunday morning affair - a full reception at a very nice venue in northern New Jersey. We were thinking that a $500 gift would be appropriate to the event and our pocketbook (Vinny knows our situation). Also, btw, I was invited to the bridal shower which was very nice indeed, and gave a $100 gift from the registry. Your thoughts are welcome, thanks!

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  • LM
    Super December 2022
    LM ·
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    *fake a health or family conflict (not last minute which would cost the hosts for no-shows).
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  • MrsC
    Devoted June 2023
    MrsC ·
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    Actually, we're not uncomfortable at all. Although we don't know the bridal couple that well, and they are very nice, we are on very friendly terms with FOG/boss, and his wife who also works for the same outfit as my husband. As I've mentioned they are truly lovely people - kind and generous people, very active in their community. We don't think at all that Vinny is looking to get anything back, quite the opposite, we consider it an honor to have been invited to the wedding, and I to the shower - which was lovely and which I enjoyed immensely! Our desire to be generous with a wedding gift to the bride and groom is our way of appreciating all that Vinny has done for hubby (not that it's necessary but it's how we are), and celebrating with them. We know that Vinny and his wife and their son and new DIL will see the gift in the spirit in which it is given. Last year, we attended the Quinceanera (for those of you who are Hispanic or know anyone who is, this is a sort of debutante coming- out party for a 15 year old daughter) (which was more elaborate than most of the weddings we've ever attended!!) of the daughter of our next door neighbor - also a very good and giving friend. We gave the girl a generous cash gift for the same reason: to honor the friendship and the occasion.

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  • MrsC
    Devoted June 2023
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    No, we won't be doing that - we're looking forward to attending the wedding. (The good news too is that we do not have to buy anything to wear - he will wear the new suit, etc that he wore for our wedding ceremony in June and I will be wearing some of my wedding accessories with an appropriate dress). The venue is very nice, the food will be great, and we have met many of the guests on previous occasions, and quite honestly, I think they would be, for lack of a better word, hurt if we don't attend. We have no family nearby which they know (hubby has no family at all, mine is far-flung and our son and grandkids live 5 states away), and we're in good enough health that it wouldn't be convincing.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    Cash gift is best, and I think $500 is more generous than you need to be. $400 sounds great to me— extremely generous without being over the top. I would factor in that you’re not that close to the actual couple getting married. Reading your post about your relationship with the parents— *that* friendship, I’d up it to $500 for, if it was *their* wedding. But they’re not the ones you’re gifting.
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  • A
    Just Said Yes December 2023
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    It's nice of you. This sound's like a generous and a meaningful gift

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