Wedding Guests?

Lol this sucks to say but my FH's best friend and mother. His mom is a drunk who when I first met her she was screaming at me "GET OUT OF MY HOUSE YOU WH*RE" so lol not a fan of her still. Plus every time I go over to her house after 4pm, she's drunk as a skunk and belittles me in every way she can without saying something insanely harsh, but trust me, I know she wants to. And for his best friend, he used to be like my little brother and since he got a girlfriend, he has been nothing but rude and disrespectful to me. Probably because he cheated on her and I tore him a new one to tell her, because lying about cheating is worse than cheating. I also would love if half of his family and family friends wouldn't show up because they're all drunks too. I hate saying it but gosh.

I had a couple of people (some family I'm not really close to/don't really like but too scared to name names haha) that I invited knowing that if I didn't invite them, I would never hear the end of it. Luckily, they probably won't come. None of them came to any of my sisters' in town weddings so they definitely won't be traveling out of state for mine. I figured the cost of the save the date/invitation/postage was worth it to not upset them.

My FH's step-father lol. Can't really get out of that. And one of my cousins. I'm already not inviting one of my tia's and her husband. I'm not close with her at all and he's a terrible person. I am inviting their two kids (my cousins), but their brother (the cousin I don't like) is only being invited to hopefully make up for the fact that I'm not inviting their parents. Wow, that was confusing to write haha.

That didn't really happen for me aha

A few of my dads side of the family. They are aunts & first cousins. They were so embarrassing during my shower, going out of their way to introduce themselves as my dad side - not to be confused w/ my mom’s side & making snide comments (mostly bc of jealousy, as my shower was very nice & I’m the first female in my family to have a shower). They also got seriously drunk.

Oh well, what can you do? I decided to sit them near the bar at the wedding.

My FMILs best friend. My FH didnt want to invite her but he caved (we were way under our projected total, so it didnt effect our numbers) but she drives me insane. I struggled with where to put her on the seating chart because I didnt want to subject people to her. She has a tendency to be completely overbearing and rude and it really ticks me off. Then, she invited a plus one -her sister- for herself (we didnt give plus ones). The only reason I didnt lose it then is because my FH likes the sister more than her and would prefer she have someone to bug all night. 🙄

My grandmother on my dads side. We've never got along and she plays favorites with my uncles kids

My FH’s brother. I cannot stand him and he has talked negatively about me behind my back but can never say anything to my face. He gets offended very easily due to his insecurities. I have bought his child numerous clothes, undergarments, books, etc from age 19 months to present (5 and a half years old) and he has NOT ONCE thanked me.
Im actually considering to elope so I can avoid conflict, and save a lot of money.

Unfortunately my FMIL & FSIL.

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Ugh I'm sorry to hear that. My grandmother plays favorites too.

There’s a family at our church we attended that I did not get along with. The husband in particular was someone who I particularly did not like and we butted heads quite often. But my husband was rather fond of him and mentored my husband with being a minister so I had to cave. I really didn’t get to interact with his family that much at the wedding because there was so many people that attended. I did however thank his family for attending and for their wedding gift.

No. I didn’t invite my paternal unit or anyone else that I didn’t wish to see on that day. I still had a few uninvited people show up, eat, and one even took a to-go plate. However, their ***** were no where to be found when it was time to clean up.

My mother, lol.

Worked itself out, though, she got mad at the invitations and declined to come.

While that was a happy outcome for me, I did not expect the invitation to be the thing that did it... kind of anti-climatic, if you ask me. I was sure it would have been her behaving terribly AT the wedding. (She wasn't so great at the bridal shower, according to my friends. I'm so used to her bad behavior, I thought she was passable.)

Basically my mom's entire side of the family. She didn't have any contact with them up until a couple of years ago, so these people are literally strangers to me. She's made us go over to her dads house with all her siblings at Christmas a couple of times, and it's always so awkward. They all act so happy to see us and they're really nice, but it makes me uncomfortable that they act like we're all super close when I literally can't remember any of their names half the time.

Not me personally but my FH has an uncle he hasn't seen in years who is just a destructive person that his mom made us invite. He left his first wife for another woman (the woman my FH ended up growing up with as his aunt), then cheated on her when she became ill and left her for another woman (who we ended up inviting to the wedding with him since they had been together for a few years) then as soon as he received our invite a few months ago left that wife for ANOTHER woman across the country and was offended when I left her as plus one on our guest list (I didn't even know her name yet lol).

My cousin lol. She’s my cousin by marriage and she is close in age to me and another cousin so initially the three of us were very close through our teenage years and it was nice. Then it changed when she went to college. All of a sudden she started excluding me from things and she would ask me in front of our other cousins friends how I was related to them again. Even though she was the one who didn’t share blood with us, and I never ever treated her that way. We eventually had a falling out and she very rarely reaches out to any of us. But if I don’t invite her, even though I’m sure my family will understand, it will look bad on me. So I decided to suck it up and invite her and her boyfriend to be the bigger person. I’m getting married on a Thursday, so I know she’ll decline, and she’ll look like the jerk and not me 😁

Unfortunately, I can't stand my uncle's wife! My uncle is my only relative on my mom's side who will be there, as my mom is too sick to attend and it's a very small family. His wife of 30+ years is part of the package. She's been a troll to us since they were married. I wish I didn't have to have her there, but oh well! Good thing is she doesn't talk to me, so I won't be bothered with her

A LOT of people, actually. I come from a very close-knit, huge family. We're close but doesn't mean we like each other or get along all the time. Anyway, I couldn't not invite my grandmothers' siblings, or some of their children and their children children. Also, I had to accept some of FH's friends and family. Eh. I expect that not everyone will show up AND if they do, sit them far away from my head table. Lol

My FH insists on inviting all of his aunts and uncles (16) who he never speaks to because he think it would upset his mother.
Ive invited 3 out of my 13 uncles and aunts- only the ones that I have a relationship with- and he doesn’t understand how there may be some tension with my family being vastly outnumbered at the wedding.

I only want people there that are important to us, we were supposed to have a small wedding (30ish people) and it’s turned into 80 already and the guest list is not finalized.

FH's Uncle and FH Brother's fiance

His uncle is annoying, but I can usually deal with it, especially since that will just be one guest that I can easily avaoid if I want to, BUT he is super close to his sister (FH mom) and really doesn't get along with FH dad (they're divorced. He went so far as to say that if they were all seated at the same table he wasn't going to come. I honesty wanted to un-invite him then and there. FH felt the same way, but that's really the only family on his mom's side and FH's mom and uncle live together so on the list he stays.

With the fiance, I'm just not a fan of her. She's rude and annoying. They skipped FH's step mom's birthday party, are late to literally everything, and when she came to my bridal shower she didn't even bring a card. Like I understand when people are on a budget, but not even a card?