Our guest list -
This is something that we have been struggling with since he proposed in January. Neither of us want to hurt anyone's feelings, however we've already had to nix children from the list just to stay within budget (barely). We have discussed eloping but at the end of the day, we really wanted this wedding to happen just the we'd like.
This is for both of us, our second marriage. Our previous experiences left much to be desired nor did we get a say in our big days. I'm writing this with a heaviness in my heart as he has already chopped his list down to around 33 guests (including family and the grooms party). There isn't really much need or room for him to remove more people just so my GIANT family can attend.
Honestly this is beginning to feel like a rant but I truly feel the need to ask for advice as I know if I ask family or friends (who are most likely off my list now due to budget) it will cause an issue. We love our venue, and have paid the holding fee which is non refundable. I've cried over this because of oversharing of opinions of friends and family and me feeling like I am just making him miserable over this. Of course as always, he is a perfectly supportive and loving in all of his responses and wants us to have this wedding after all we've been through.
Sorry for the long winded post, but the end of my points. Each of compiled our separate lists that included those in our bridal party as well as family and friends. I've already cut down my list to 53 guests with having to exclude small children and extended family (cousins). A good 40 persons of this are family, I hardly had any room to invite friends that are very dear to me. Even at our current count it still puts us at quite a lot for our venue. It is doable but the anxiety is making this hard while he remains ever optimistic about it.
I don't really know what I am asking at this point but what do I do? We both have agreed we are keeping this venue and this date, I just can't stop worrying about the amount of people. I know 88 doesn't sound like a lot of guests but to be fair, I could probably make it less I just know I'll get grief from the family.