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Amber
Devoted September 2019

Wedding in 13 days... rehearsal dinner plans....

Amber, on August 18, 2019 at 7:44 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 13
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Sooo. Long story short. I was planning on doing the rehearsal dinner at me and FH home after our rehearsal. But there are several out of town guests. We can not afford to take them all out to dinner nor is our house big enough for all these people. (25/30) we have a decent sized home but I just don’t think I can accommodate all of them plus I dnt want to be left w a mess to clean the night before! I have tons of out of state family whom I want to spend time with but I’m thinking a rehearsal dinner will not be happening.
What else can I do??
my mom suggested going to dinner but having everyone pay for their own. I wouldn’t even know how to tell people that...I’m just at a total loss

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Latest activity by Nemo, on August 19, 2019 at 10:38 AM
  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    You can have the rehearsal dinner and not invite out of town guests, that’s not uncommon.
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  • Amber
    Devoted September 2019
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    Still can’t afford to pay for all the people in wedding party. That’s the problem. We have no one helping w that expense
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    Your mom probably meant well, but it would be rude to have rehearsal dinner guests pay for their own food. I'd take Samantha's advice! Keeping the RD limited to just the parents and bridal party is fine!

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    Just saw your recent post! Have you considered doing something like pizza?

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  • VIP September 2019
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    The rehearsal dinner is usually just for wedding party and parents. At least that is what I have always known it to be. We are having my parents, FH mom, wedding party, and two of my friends for rehearsal. We are setting up the venue, doing a walk through rehearsal, then having pizza and desserts
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  • Amber
    Devoted September 2019
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    Pizza was discussed. Originally it was gonna be at my house. But I dnt want all the mess and cleanup. I suppose we could do a pizzeria and order a few pizzas.
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  • ASMini914
    Super September 2019
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    We are doing a "happy hour" at the hotel before our rehearsal dinner for out of town guests. This way we can visit with them, but they are not all invited to our RD.

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  • Erin
    Dedicated October 2019
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    We’re getting married about 5 hours from where we live, so everyone has to travel for the wedding. Two nights before the wedding we’re doing a pre-wedding get together for whoever is in town and wants to see us. I picked a place that has an awesome outdoor area and people can buy drinks and food if they want, but it’s not a sit down restaurant. I told our guest that FH and I will be here at 6 pm on Thursday for anyone that wants to see us and hang out. Then the rehearsal is the next day and is only for the wedding party and family.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    Having a RD for just your bridal party members and parents is completely fine and what I consider the norm. But asking anyone to pay for their own food at your rehearsal dinner is not appropriate. If you can’t afford to host the dinner, I would skip it. RD’s are not required.
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  • Amber
    Devoted September 2019
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    Yes thinking of skipping it. Seems awkward to have people go out of their way for the rehearsal and not offer dinner but at the end of the day we have paid for everything on our own so people will probably understand it isn’t in or budget
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  • L
    Savvy August 2020
    Leslie ·
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    A rehearsal dinner is typically only for those people IN the wedding and who took part in the rehearsal...attendants with partners and parents. It is not necessary to invite every family member or out of town guest.
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  • Amber
    Devoted September 2019
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    I like your idea Asam!
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  • Nemo
    Master August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    If you do a rehearsal, you need to host a dinner in some way. Doesn't need to be fancy, but it would be inappropriate to skip it. If you can't afford it, skipping the rehearsal all together is an option.

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