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Just Said Yes May 2023

Wedding in 2 months and i don’t want to have it anymore

Poppy, on March 4, 2023 at 7:19 PM Posted in Planning 0 3

Our wedding is in 2 months and I don’t even want to have this wedding anymore. Maybe it’s the planning that has taken a toll on me or the fact that a lot of my family won’t be there. I’m just not excited about it anymore and it should be the happiest day in our lives and I should feel excited at this point. In the beginning I was super excited, couldn’t wait to send out the invitations and plan everything etc. I think the biggest reason is that I had this idea that we can celebrate the big day with both of our families and friends and we will have this beautiful event and everyone is happy and now that there will be only 2 people from my side, I feel like I’m just throwing an expensive party for his friends and family. I don’t have a big family or friend group but I was counting on that at least 8-10 people from my side would come especially since we are helping with the accommodations and travel costs. And we are super close with my family and I really wanted to share this important day with them and have those father-daughter and mother-daughter moments and memories. I won’t be even enjoying the day and it will be painful when my family won’t be there. I love my fiancé but like I said before - at this point I just feel like I’m throwing an expensive party for his friends and I just want to cancel everything and elope and not to think about it. I don’t know what to do. The wedding is in 2 months.

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Latest activity by Abigail, on March 13, 2023 at 12:56 PM
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    Beginner April 2024
    Kierstin ·
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    Hey! I’m sorry to hear that your so conflicted with your emotions. However, just remember that this is you and your fiancés day! If you want to elope, bring it up with your fiancé and see how he feels about it. If he wants to still have the wedding extravaganza then discuss that. Either way, explain to him how you are feeling about the wedding and see what he has to say. Also , is there a reason most of your family can’t make it?
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    CM ·
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    I can understand how you feel, and I’m sorry that’s your situation. Is it at all possible to postpone so that your family can be there? What to do depends on your fiance’s thoughts, the kind of wedding it is, what remains to be paid, whether you would lose much or all in deposits, could easily apply them to elopement, if invitations have gone out etc.
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    Just Said Yes September 2023
    Abigail ·
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    You should 100% be excited and present on your wedding day! I have lots of out-of-state family who I am close with as well, and I would be feeling just like you if they could not come. We haven't sent out invites yet, but if a large portion of them cannot attend, I am considering holding a second family ceremony closer to where they live. No frills, just something simple and intimate in my grandparents' backyard. If it's too late to cancel, would it be possible to downsize the scale of your upcoming wedding and use the extra money to hold a second event sometime when your loved ones can make it? There's value in a fun party, but for me family is more important.

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