Wedding Invitations... Is it tacky????

I wouldn't personally do it only because many of my older guests don't use their email frequently, but I have received one and had zero issue with it. I don't keep paper invitations anyway .

Lynzey and I tend to differ in opinion on invites though.

Call me old fashioned .. I personally would not enjoy an e-mail invitation. Everything in today's world is hurried and sometimes not even spell checked. I like a real nice paper invitation to be mailed.

E-mails are for quick check ins with friends and family or business communication.

I think an email invitation is better than a Facebook invitation. But unless you're having a super casual event, you're better off with a real invite. Even I wish I'd done my invites a little differently to set a better tone for our wedding -- not that it was bad, it was a great day and no one acted a fool, just I wanted it to be more formal than I think our families really are...

If you're concerned about money, look into Vistaprint. I got all my invites, return address labels, thank you cards and more for less than $40. This blog can help, check out the Vistaprint tab and look at some examples of what ladies have gotten for fairly cheap. http://weddingtips101.wordpress.com

I know it's tempting, but remember the invite sets the tone for your big day. Its hard to convey that over an email.

Just Reenski, how many invites were in your package?

I meant.....

Is it tacky to send electronic invitations to individuals who are always on their computer? People who are not always on the internet would receive a paper invitation. I thought sending electronic initiations would make is easier for people to RSVP.

Sometimes, in my cultural people tend not to RSVP to events.

I don't want to be tacky.

@Robin, check out that blog, my haul is listed (AO's haul) with details. I used the postcards as my invites (same size, the XL postcards are the same size as their 6 x 9 invites) so I got 100 when I needed... 40ish? Came in handy if anyone lost theirs, for frames for our parents, for my shadowbox...

@dpierce, I love the internet, I prefer looking at wedding websites, I'm all for RSVPing online. But still, it's a wedding. All of my guests are computer savvy and even the young ones took a while to RSVP (or didn't RSVP until I asked them about it in passing and I updated it for them.)

If people aren't good about RSVPing in general, the form in which they get the invitation is unlikely to make that any better. Look at Facebook events, so many people either don't RSVP or do the "Maybe" thing that is meaningless.

Meant culture....

Not a facebook evite....

Ladies,

Thank you for your advice and comments. I will not send out evites because I want people to understand that it is a formal event and not a back yard BBQ event. (ToBeMrsM) (smile)

I do want to set the tone for a nice dress up wedding event not a casual - shorts or jeans wedding.

I guess I am being selfish because I didn’t want to waste money on postage when people probably won’t utilize the response card since they will probably call, text, email, or FB us to RSVP.

I wouldn't send my invitations electronically just because people are dumb.

I sent my STD electronically and a lot of people (especially the olds) couldn't access them or figure them out. Even a lot of young people aren't computer savvy at all. smh

However, I sent my invitations by mail, and had everyone RSVP online. We will see how that goes.

Then instead of having a response card, have folks RSVP via your website and/or a phone number. I did all online RSVPs because I wanted to both save postage and because I knew I'd have an uphill battle getting some RSVPs (the battle was bigger than I'd expected.)

I uploaded a design from Wedding Chicks and altered it a bit to fit on the VP postcards. Lots of ladies on here have given the online RSVP option for a variety of reasons.

But it sounds like no matter what you do as far as RSVPing, you'll have to hunt people down. Perhaps you can also include an "Additional Information" card that can have a spot explain that you do need people to RSVP to ensure enough food and space to accommodate them.

Wedding etiquette standards have evolved over the years, but mailing invitations is still the standard and customary practice.

I wouldnt. Huge No No! Lol

I would personally recommend still sending a paper invite. Invitations tend to set the tone for your wedding. And would not want your electronic invites to be perceived the wrong way. Especially if some people get physical invitations and some people don't.

Let me know if I can help with finding invitations if you choose to go that route.

I wouldn't.

I know what you mean by wasting a stamp!!! Over 100 invites didn't get sent back that I sent with stamps and completely filled out besides accept and decline... super!! that's 46.00 alone on the return ones and the with the invites 92.00. GONE

We're doing email STD's but regular wedding invites. You can get them super cheap from VP! And there's a living social AND a groupon right now I believe.

I agree. Tacky is an opinion...some might think it is, others won't. I wouldn't do it because I would be afraid that people wouldn't see it. I know how I read my email...if I didn't have a smart phone to see my emails, I wouldn't get it until the wedding was over.

We e-mailed our save the dates (probably costed around $25) and made our invitations on vistaprint (using a groupon, cost $55 total) to save money. People loved the e-mail save the date because it was easy. We opted to only make an invitation and not include inserts; instead our RSVP and registry information is on our wedding website. We saved a lot of money doing things this way

I am totally against emailing invitations.