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Just Said Yes February 2021

Wedding Invitations

Desi, on December 4, 2021 at 1:27 AM Posted in Planning 0 12
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I am getting married soon and my sister-in-law designed a wedding invitation she wants to send out to the guests on the grooms (my future husband) side. At the top of the invitation she wrote "(My brother-in-law and her name) request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their brother (my future husband's name and parents name) with (my name and parents name). At the bottom she wrote "with best compliments from nephew (her sons name)". I was very upset because idk why she put her name with my brother-in-law and sons name in our wedding invitation. They are neither planning nor paying for the wedding. I got very upset she put their names on it. Am I over-reacting? She also misspelled my moms name and said late and my dads name when my dad is alive (my parents are divorced though). She never asked me and I was totally unaware this was about to go to printing. Am I justified in being upset even though this is for my future husbands side of the family and not mine? I don't want to cause a fight so what should I say?

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Latest activity by Becky, on December 5, 2021 at 9:22 AM
  • Stephanie
    Savvy August 2022
    Stephanie ·
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    Those invites sound messed up for several reasons. Have you discussed this with your fiance yet? This is definitely something for him to speak up on.
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    I would respectfully decline her help. That sounds absolutely ridiculous. Pay for and design your own invitations that are to you and your partners liking.
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  • S
    Super September 2022
    Sarah ·
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    Yeah that’s a big no for me. Everyone gets the same invitation and she’s making it look like she’s hosting.
    I guess just say “thanks for your help. We’ve decided to use the same invitation for everyone.”
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  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I didn’t even finish reading the post it made me so mad. Absolutely NO! Do not budge on that. She is so very wrong. (Unless of coarse she is paying for the wedding)
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  • Shannon
    Super July 2022
    Shannon ·
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    Sounds like your sister in law wants to pay for your wedding.


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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    That is beyond overstepping her bounds. Your future husband needs to shut that down asap, and tell her the two of you have invitations already handled and do not need any additional assistance.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    This is SO weird. Say NO. Make your fiancé say no, if it’s his sister. She is way overstepping if she is serious with this. If her name is on the host line, she better be paying for the wedding …
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Not acceptable. Fiancé needs to support you as a united front in shutting this down. Be prepared for her to take over other parts of your wedding. Let her know that you have already taken care of invites.
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  • Carla
    Dedicated May 2022
    Carla ·
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    That is so weird! I agree with everyone else, just kindly decline her help & talk to your partner about it. What she is doing is unacceptable. It's not even me & I'm upset!
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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    Noooo. No. That's not OK. Your Fiancé needs to manage this and ASAP, as he should sort out his side of the family. If they aren't paying they have no place on the invitation. I've literally never seen this.

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  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
    KYLIE ·
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    Um, nope. Have your fiancé firmly tell her you two are handling invitations, just like the rest of your wedding plans. And get yours out ASAP before she does!
    I can’t believe she listed your dad as dead! Insanity all around!
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    VIP July 2017
    Becky ·
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    So, this is beyond odd. Your FH needs to tell her that this is not okay, that everyone will be receiving the same invitation (designed/chosen by the two of you), and that it will not have their names on.

    Your date here says you aren't getting married for another year and a half though, so it's a little early for invitations regardless.

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