Wedding is 63 days away, and I'm still recovering from Knee surgery... gaining weight. :(

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this! Don't starve yourself, but definitely watch your intake. Make most of your calories come from fruits and veggies. Don't actually cut anything out, because you'll binge later on. Just eat moderately sized portions. Another way to make sure you don't overeat is to eat small meals throughout the day instead of 3 big ones. I used myfitnesspal to count calories for a while and it really helped.

Can you walk? Start by taking walks in the evening, even just short ones at first. Understand you may not lose any weight, but this will help you not gain more. Also, you're going to get some terrible weight loss advice from this forum. Idk why everyone loves to give crappy advice about this, but stay healthy please!

What happened with the wedding planner? That's miserable. Have you/are you going to hire a new one?

Oh no! This sounds so stressful. I'm sorry you're going through this. I know when I'm stressed out, I tend to eat more. Maybe you could keep easy healthy snacks around so that you can still eat when you're stressed. Raw veggies are a great option because they're still satisfyingly crunchy, but there are very few calories in them.

Im so sorry you are going through all this. Dont starve yourself, eat 4 small portions a day and raw veggies are a good option

Download the MyFitnessPal app and use that to make sure you're not overeating. Losing weight is 90% diet 10% exercise, realistically, so if you measure and weigh everything you eat it will work for you.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you! I agree with PP to keep lots of veggies on hand for snacking.

For working out, I'd suggest getting some small hand weights. You can do arm exercises while sitting and watching tv!

Good luck!

Wedding planner was paid up front (BIG MISTAKE) and she didn't help me find vendors at all. Sent me 3 vendors for photography and 2 for catering. Was planning on having wedding at friends farm (hay fields) and reception on our small farm. She was told up front photography and food were VERY important to me...and the vendors she sent me didn't match stylistically at all. Their prices were exorbitant and quotes came back as high as entire wedding budget. So i had to fire her on valentines day - and she's claiming she did 8 hours of work on my behalf... It's all a legal mess now and I am suing her for full amount back since she did nothing. She wouldn't respond to my emails, phone calls for days at a time. Never provided a 'style board' as was promised at least 5 times. She was horrible. I think she took all my $ and spent it and then decided she was going to 'phone it in'. All a mess... Anyways thanks for pep talk on diet. It's been tough.

Fruits and veggies are your best friends. See if your PT has some suggestions. I admit I am kinda surprised you'd have surgery of this magnitude so close to your wedding.

I agree w/ Bemyguest, Walking at your own pace will help you. Try walking at a speed of three in the treadmill. I had knee issues and had to wear a brace until the swelling and lent subsided. One big thing that I did to lose weight was cut sugars, whole dairy and processed foods. This means no food from a box or a drive through. And no "Cow Milk". We use organic eggs and almond milk. We also read ingredients in everything. Meal prep on Sunday's so you don't have much to do during the week but with the wedding planning I know how you feel because my wedding is 7/2/17. But breath. Everything will come together. I also have a Fitbit so that motivates me too.

@c4ta

Sorry about your knee. I am also sorry about your planner situation. Did you contact a lawyer before firing her? Because with what you describe, it sounds like you technically breached the contract and that trying to get your money back will be an uphill battle.

Even if you thought she was doing a bad job on picking vendors, that is subjective. Also, taking a few days to return phone calls and emails will not matter unless your contract explicitly spelled out that she must be available constantly and quickly return communication. The never produced style board is your best defense to instead prove that she breached first. Although, she can say you didn't give her a chance to finish it and there was likely no explicit timeline for that in your contract.

I don't mean to be the bearer of bad news, but hopefully this will guide another bride to not fire a vendor thinking they will be able to recoup payment. This is almost a classic example of anticipatory breach from law school contracts exam.

My main point of advice--do not fire/cancel a vendor you think is doing a poor job or is showing signs of unreliability until after you tell them your concerns and give them a chance to fix and reassure performance. Also, consult a lawyer before expecting to recoup money by suing someone.

I'm so sorry about your situation, both your surgery recovery and your terrible wedding planner! Do you have friends that have recently gotten married in the area that you can ask for recommendations? 2 months is tight but doable for finding vendors but I have faith in you!!

I didn't put the full story in on the wedding planner fiasco. I gave her ample time and multiple opportunities to rectify her bad work. This went on for months. Needless to say I have of course contacted an attorney and I'm well within my rights. The reason for my post wast the wedding planner, but the surgery. Surgery wasn't supposed to be complicated. it was supposed to be a simple procedure that I could walk out of the surgery center under my own power. Dr. didn't know apparently what he was going to find until he was in there. Then he made the decision to do more than i wanted/bargained for. What's done is done. This was my 4th knee surgery and although i have made a lot of progress since, it's just slow and is causing me strife.

I was merely looking for suggestions on how to keep spirits up and small things i can do that maybe i haven't thought of yet to break the dole drums and see light at the end of the tunnel.

Trying to keep it positive

Keep your spirits up! Drink veggie (and some fruit) smoothies for meals and snacks, then eat a plant based dinner. Cut dairy and wheat products. My fave smoothie is bananas, tons of spinach, almond milk, a little honey, and 2-3 spoonfuls of pb2 (peanut butter powder). So yum

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Is there a pool anywhere near you? When I destroyed my knee swimming was my go to workout.

Drinking lots of water and eating healthy food is a great way to go. Also walk on a treadmill on very slow pace and slowly work your way up.

@c4ta I know some yoga positions may be beneficial too, especially with the stretching. I'd talk to a physical therapist about this first though (an in no way am I giving you any advice about which poses because I don't know your situation or mobility level, just saying there are some that can be beneficial!)

Im so sorry you're going through all of this. Please don't starve yourself that's about the worst thing you could do for your body. just eat healthy food and eat smaller meals throughout the day, eating more veggies and fruit will also help

Im so sorry youre going through this... I hope that you have a speedy recovery. Definitely try to eat as healthy as you can the time being.

ETA my wedding is june 30 and thats 68 days away btw..

@AD,

Apparently i cant count. Haha. Im in p/t as i type this. 3x/week since the procedure. Probably will be in still for another 2 months. My therapist knows my concerns and is trying to help. Its hard to burn the calories however when you cant even do a full totation on life cycle. But i am excersizing every day, even on offp/t days. I think its the restrictions on calories im having a hard time with. I restricted before the surgery and i have to further restrict now. Just feel like im at not being able to have more than 2,000 calories/day.