Wedding night and 2 yr old baby?

@ Jennifer: girl, first of all, I respect you for going the whole nine yards with the whole baby wear thing with FOUR of em little ones!

@ Stacy, you bring up a veryyyy good point, my son doesn't have a rigid bedtime routine and I need to get strict with that. Partly, because I don't have a bedtime routine and wake til the wee hours of the night writing papers and essays. I need to crack the whip. Or the Elmo books. Lol

@ Masquerade, LOL @ your husbands point. I like his brutal honesty.

To all: I got off the phone after a very long convo with FH. I raised the points raised here and then some which came to mind. He's totally ok with having Ibrahim (the baby) for the wedding night... He has some very sweet reasons: 1) we have our whole lives to do whatever we want but he wants to bring home our son the day we become a family unit. 2) we're going to be renting his parents basement and he's building Ibrahim a room next to our future bedroom and wants to see him in there ASAP. 3) Cont'd

3) we can always move to another room.

So I realized I am blessed that he's more understanding then I give him credit for. I will go with the flow of things... always put my marriage first bc the day my marriage falls apart, so will the peace of our home and affect our kids the most. Plus, he's putting Ibrahim before himself, once again... <3

I think he will be fine! My three year old often times sleeps with grammy when he spends the night at her house. I always lay down with him at night while he falls asleep (in his bed/room) but then I sneak out when I know hes out. She does the same thing. Maybe just let your mother know to lay with him so he doesnt feel alone, and then leave when hes asleep. He will be okay, enjoy your night and dont stress over it!

My FH and I have an almost two year old and we sleep with her as well. She has slept w/ us day one and hasn't been away from us at all. She will be staying and sleeping with my mom. She and my mom are very close and I am not worried about this. I believe we will have a trial run to see how she makes out with my mom and to get her use to it. I only told my FH that we would not be going too far away for the honeymoon. We are only going 1 hour away for 2 days. I just didn't want to leave our baby! If you are close to someone and can leave your baby, do it. However, if you are not close to anyone I would never leave my baby with someone just because. Good luck with your decision. Talk to your FH.

I was always the mom that was terrified of co-sleeping for 2 reasons. 1) the baby getting hurt by me or falling off the bed while I was sleeping. 2) The thought of having a child (not toddler) have the run of my bed seemed very unpleasant. I think it's great that your FH is ok with having your son on the wedding night. Beyond that though, you may want to consider getting a toddler bed to be in your room with you so he can slowly get used to the idea of sleeping in his own space. It may make the transition into his own room later on much easier. My son is 5 and at 3 he was VERY concerned with being a "big boy" so it may end up being more beneficial for him that you think. I know how hard it can be to realize your baby is growing up. I cry on my children's birthdays every year. But as parents we have to help and encourage growth. I commend you for being so aware of the effect this particular situation could have on your FH.In the end I think you will find a plan that works for everyone.