Wedding night

We didn't have sex on our wedding night. We were too tired at 2am after I had been up since 6am.

It makes sense, and I don't even think it's honestly sad. People get tired, and they have the rest of their lives to have sex. For me personally, if I'm exhausted, drunk and stuffed with rich food, there's not much chance of my enjoying sex in that state. So if I'm not up to it, I'll be fine with waiting until morning. If we manage to get away early or just get revved up on adrenaline, awesome.

My weddings not until next year. I don't care what time it is or how tired I am, we WILL be getting it on

^You say that now...

Drunk sex is the worst for me. I get so nauseous, even with 3 drinks. I am def prioritizing partying over the sex.

Nope. Our reception ended at 11:3PM and we went back to our hotel bar, with members of wedding party, until it closed.

However, the next morning ...

I don't think it's sad, just realistic! For most of us it's not exactly the first time. I don't want to force myself to have tipsy, exaughsted sex because it's "my wedding night". I'd rather wait and really enjoy it!

I think sex on the wedding night, as a general consensus, doesn't hold the weight that it used to. Many couples have already been having sex for years, so "consummating" isn't a "must do" on the wedding night if they're too tired.

There are, of course, couples who do wait till marriage to have sex, a couple of whom are on this board, and are good friends. I'd be interested to find out if they were too tired, or if they stayed up to have a little sexy time.

DH and I did. We almost didn't, because we were exhausted, but we got our second wind. It was kind of important to me as well, so he wanted to make sure that it happened. (We've been sleeping together for almost 8 years, and the last year or so we've been incompatible at times due to low sex drive, weight gain (for me), and a handful of other personal issues.) It wasn't a marathon, but it was sweet, and romantic.

ETA: I would have been fine not having it that night too, even though it was important to me for us to try, I'd have been just as thrilled just falling asleep in his arms. Although I did start my cycle the next morning, so I'd have had to wait anyway. lol

Not married yet (4 weeks from tomorrow!) but I would say there's only a 50/50 shot of us having sex on the wedding night. Hair and makeup for the bridesmaids starts at 8am which means I'll be up well before, the reception doesn't close until 11:00 and we fully anticipate hitting the town with anyone who wants to keep the party going afterwards because it's all walkable.

Would it be nice? Sure. Am I going to put pressure on either of us to do it? No. Should FH watch out the next morning if we don't? Absolutely.

I doubt we will. FH and I will probably both be drunk, exhausted and smelly. That's what the honeymoon is for!

I don't think it's sad, if we are tired then we probably won't. FH is getting me a surprise to wear when we do.

We didn't either. DH was recovering from a cold, we were tired, and it just wasn't happening. We have the rest of our lives to have sex. Quality over quantity. I'm not into sub-par nookie just because society thinks we have to. Now the week after the wedding...... That happened daily and amazing, but that particular night was a no go.

We were both feeling exhausted until we got back to the hotel room. After that I don't think we could've passed out had we wanted to. Something about knowing that we were with our husband/wife just made it something really new and exciting that we couldn't wait for. Honestly, being in our suite after the wedding was one of our favorite parts of the wedding day/night. Aside from the sex we stayed up late talking about our day, eating the food and cake our caterer had packed up for us and watching tv.

We are waiting until marriage to share that with one another. However, we have discussed in great conversations that there is no pressure that night. If I have to be up at 6 am, getting all dolled up, hosting a party, (dealing with HIS family), and then finally unwinding at midnight, I am probably going to bed. My first time is not going to be "sub par" because we forced it for that night due to "society standards".

I'm not planning on doing the deed that night- if it happens, awesome. If not, that's why we aren't leaving for our honeymoon until Monday and have our hotel room until noon!

I don't think it's sad. I have no idea if FH and I will or won't on the wedding night, but if we don't then no big deal. That's what the honeymoon is for!

Not married yet, but thinking about the day (wedding day) I will be just as content ending it in the arms of my FH. The next morning - that's something different. So I don't see it as sad, hell we have the rest of our lives to have sex.

I don't know if we'll make it to that either. If we do, great and if not, we have a 10 day honeymoon to look forward too!

WE are going to be partying and drinking all night. I don't think we will do anything but pass out. We have the rest of our lives to fuck. We have been together 9 years so that also changes things in my eyes.

We didn't get back to our hotel until 3am and where exhausted - but we made up for it on our honeymoon. I didn't care either way its not like we where waiting tell marriage or anything and we have the rest of our lives for sex.