Wedding night

We were exhausted by the time we got back to he hotel...but we did it anyways. It really meant something to do it as husband and wife for the 1st time for us after 5 years together. I could have passed out easily though sooooo tired!

While I really hope we have sex on our wedding night, realistically I know we'll probably get back to the hotel and pass out! But we can have great morning sex the next morning! We can't even stay out late at a party and come home and have sex, never mind the night after a huge event like our wedding!

1. We have no after party

2. Reception ends at 9pm

3. I don't have to be up til 10am

4. We've waited over 5 years

Forecast says there is a 100% chance we are having sex on our wedding night

I don't think it's sad either. I think the idea of married sex for the first time sounds great but when thinking realistically, we will both be up early..ok I will be up early lol getting ready and I'll probably be so exhausted after the night is over that I will probably just want to pass out.

Poor FH loves sex, I've been conflicted about sex for the past 5 years we have been together. We do have sex, just not often. Since I'm a Christian I feel super bad sometimes about having sex before marriage, it goes in spurts. I feel guilty...I know this feeling will go away once we're married...when that happens FH better WATCH OUT because I'll be making up for the past 5 years.

So hopefully with the weight lifted off my shoulders of pre-marital sex, wedding night will be the release of a sex goddess. lmao!

If not though, I don't think it's a big deal. Your wedding day is a BIG day....I'm honestly surprised it is only 50% that don't.

We did, but it wouldn't have mattered if we did or not. Our reception ended at 10pm and we were definitely tired, but we spent an hour or so opening gifts (several guests wanted us to do so that night because they gave us some "humorous" gifts) which helped us wind down and relax. So, we were less focused on being exhausted and more focused on each other. I think it's definitely lost its weight, though, and I think the culture has definitely shifted to where it is no longer a "must-do" on the actual night of the wedding.

We wouldn't have been upset had we not. Honestly I was a little surprised by the fact that we caught our second wind seeing as we'd been together for 5 years at the time of the wedding. We both sort of figured that we'd have passed out after getting to the room and would be more in the mood in the morning after getting some sleep.

I am guessing we won't- I'm getting up at like 4:30/5 AM- and it's just going to be an absurdly long day. I'll be THRILLED if we do- but we are already "light" on the how often do we have sex category- so odds are probably not. Unless I'm still slightly intoxicated- drunk Jo is horny jo.

I'm definitely not ruling it out but I'm guessing we'll be too tired. I mentioned it to a single friend of mine and he was shocked and thought it was horrible. I think I'm just realistic and going to do it just because society wants me to. We've been doing it for 8 years so I'm pretty sure we'll be able to consummate the marriage.

OP I understand about thinking it's sad not to have sex on your wedding night. FH and I are about special moments and enjoy having sex with the hype of our special moments. To us, we are excited about having sex ON our wedding day because well, it's our wedding day! We have the rest of our lives to have 'normal sex' but only once will we have 'wedding day' sex. I understand that we may be too tired, etc., etc. but no one here should be saying that we will be too tired, too drunk, not in the mood, etc., etc. because if it's important to us, so be it. I think it's good to have in mind that there's a 50% chance it won't happen, but FH & I will make that decision together if we decide not to. I don't need a bunch of people laughing at me for wanting to/thinking I will have sex on my wedding night because they think I don't understand how tired I will be.

Lol I totally get why. I'm actually hoping FH doesn't want to- do it the next morning. He can never finish when he's drunk and then get mad. Which is obviously the last thing I want him to be on our wedding night. I've actually brought it up casually a few times and the statistic.

Sad. Very sad.

FH and I have already had this conversation. We already know sex won't be happening. We will probably be too intoxicated to even get into our own room. lol

Eh, I'm not going to plan on it. Drinking makes FH incredibly sleepy, so even if I weren't exhausted from throwing a giant party, he probably won't be up for it. Morning after sex, for sure!

We have already said most likely not. It's not worth the stress and... That's why in modern times you could practice safe sex and just do it the day after.

I keep telling FH that we're doing it that night. But I'm a grandma who goes to bed at 9:30 regularly sooo it probably won't actually happen.

Yep, we didn't. (And much as I wanted to in my head beforehand)

It was a long day and a late night. My husband was asleep within 5 minutes of getting to our room.

But... Honeymoon sex was where it's at!

If we had tried, it would have been the least fun sex ever. We got to our hotel room at 3 a.m., I was exhausted - got up at 6 a.m, slept like 4 hours the night before - and DH was kind of drunk.

Even if we hadn't been completely exhausted, the bridal suite was already booked, so the hotel thought it'd be super neat to give us one of the rooms in our room block... right next to MIL/FIL. So yeah, no sex for us that night.

I doubt we will. I'm sure we will be exhausted! I would rather our first time as a married couple not be forced and out of some weird obligation. We've had the past several years and we have the rest of our lives.

I knew it was possible that we might not and that thought didn't bother me. We did end up doing it between the reception and the after party. It definitely wouldn't have happened at the end of the night. I was exhausted and H literally fell asleep on the floor while I was in the shower.