Wedding on hold

First I’m sorry for your loss and for the cancellation of your wedding. I would keep the letter simple. “To Whom it may concern. I am writing this letter to confirm the cancellation of my event on (date) at (time) at (venue). Thank you Signed, (name)”

As far as needing to pay the balance, this should be in your contract. If we cancelled within 6 months, we owed a certain amount, and within 2 months we would have owed the entire balance. Read through your contract and see what it says about cancellations and payment.

I'm so sorry about your cousin.

Are you postponing your wedding or calling it off? Are you continuing the relationship? It sounds like you are on different pages with your SO.

What does your contract say about cancelling? I would look at that before you write your letter. If you still want to get married, they may be willing to apply your deposit to a new date. I would keep the letter very short and to the point.

"Do to unfortunate recent events, I will no longer be holding my wedding on your venue on (June 1st, 2018.) I apologize for any inconvenience this may cause."

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through such hardships and I hope things get better for you soon.

Read your contract carefully and see what is required and what the cancellation deadlines and fees are. It's a good idea to cancel in writing (even if not required) and send it return/receipt so you can prove the venue received the letter. If there are deadlines that back up the fact in your contract that you will only lose the deposit, quote it in your letter. Ex: As per our signed contract dated _____, paragraph __ states ....

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Thank you for your advice. I told my family its off he told his family its on hold cause he don't want to tell them the truth about whats really going on. We are still together but there is some serious work that needs to be done within the relationship before a wedding can even happen in the near future.

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Thank you for the advice i will look into that when i get home.

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I'm sorry that you are struggling. If you really want to try to make it work I suggest using the services of a counselor, if you can swing it. They may be able to help you sort through these issues and determine if it is worth saving. I wish you the best either way.

Definitely look at your contract- it might hold some answers to why you are are liable for the remaining balance, or it might give information that'll get you out of paying the balance.

Hope you guys are able to get things settled with each other. Definitely see a counselor or therapist to help you out. Make sure you're being realistic about the person you really are and the person he really is, not the people you want to be or want the other to be. Also read "Hold Me Tight" by Sue Johnson.

Sorry for your loss and sorry that you are going thur a storm but the sun will definitely shine again 💗

Sorry to hear out your loss. I agree with the other ladies read your contract for sure. And far as the relationship. Him and you are doing the right thing by putting the marriage on hold. If its not right before I Do. It will not be right afterwards. I wish you both the best life have to offer and that things work out.

Sorry about your lost and the postponement of your wedding. Stay strong the sun always shines after a storm.

Here is the contract #6,7 does not give a date of when to contact them. but its also confusing. Number 6 says one thing but 7 says another. im getting ready to type my letter and head up there

Your contract states (#6) to call them as soon as possible should there be a cancellation but (#7) you are still responsible for the entire amount of the cost of the venue. According to this contract, it looks like you are responsible for the entire cost of the venue when you sign this contract regardless of X time before cancellation.

View Quoted Comment Ok thank you i just contacted them this morning.

I’m very sorry you are going through a bad time. Thank you for feeling comfortable enough to share with this community. My only addition to what others have said is if your SO also signed the contract, he is also responsible for the balance. You shouldn’t have to shoulder the burden alone.

I just wanted to Thank everyone for the advice from the post i made earlier. I wanted to let you know everything went well with the venue. I didn't have to pay the remaining balance.

View Quoted Comment Glad it worked out! A detail off your shoulders.

I’m so glad you just lost the deposit! I’m so sorry you are going through a tough time. My condolences for your cousin. I just wanted to say you’re very courageous for cancelling and acknowledging you aren’t ready. I bet for every person like you, there are 100 who just go through with it and have problems later. I wish strength for you to get through all of this!