Wedding on the anniversary of loved ones passing

The person in question who is giving me a hard time is my uncle. He said it's like slapping him in the face or spitting on his grave. And he'd never been married before in his life.

Who is the family member who is giving you static? I think it is unrealistic to think your wedding will make the day a happy one. People will just be asked to act happy when they may be in mourning. I think it is kinder to have it a few weeks after, when everyone has had time to grieve. There are many ways to honor someone who had such a huge role in your life. You might be better served by picking some of those out.

AlwaysMs. My grandfather had been gone for 3 going on 4 years...

My sister in law had her wedding on the one year anniversary of their fathers death, we did have a good time, but the day was still incredibly sad.

She wishes she would've picked another day.

If your venue and vendors allow you to move your date without penalty you should seriously consider it.

My grandmother has been gone 25 years and till this day my mother has a very hard time on the anniversary. I would never choose that day to get married because it wouldn't feel right to me and I know my mother would be faking her happiness all day.

Sorry you're in this situation.

My mother would not appreciate this. It is something you should discuss with your family and see how they would feel.

It is so important to consider the perspective of some of your guests when making this decision. I lost my sister in August 2003, which lead me to completely take August off the table when choosing a wedding date. I wouldn't attend an event on the same date for concern that I can't really predict how I'll feel. Family who may have been closer or don't have the excitement of getting married to look forward to may not be in a partying mood. No one feels the same way about your wedding as you. If you want to make that a happy date, adopt a puppy that day or make some other new memory to share with just FH.

Hopefully you did what you wanted! I’m getting married the Anniversary of the day my grandfather passed, I’ve already had 2 people ask if I knew the day I picked, and I told them yes. He has been gone for 10 years this year, and not only am I honoring him, I’m also doing something special for myself and my soon to be husband.