Wedding or no wedding! 😔

So I was slightly in the same boat as you and also because my husband has social anxiety and didn't want a lot of attention on him. We ended up just doing a elopement ceremony with two friends and my brother attended the ceremony and then left after the ceremony. It may not have been the big full wedding but you know what no one can tell me I didn't have a wedding and I felt special and I felt like a bride. I got my hair and makeup done, we had a two tier cake although looking back at me having too much cake but the cake was amazing hahaha, I had two photographers, we had a venue, and an officiant officiated our wedding. To me I felt like I had the bride and wedding experience even though I didn't have a big wedding and then it was a happy medium for him because he didn't want to spend a lot of money either and we both agree to blurred on our honeymoon and then he also felt at ease because he didn't have a lot of eyes on him.

Keep in mind that any form of getting married is still a wedding. Going to the courthouse is a wedding. Eloping is a wedding. It doesn’t have to have 100+ guests and a $20k+ bill to be a wedding. Have you considered an intimate wedding with your immediate family and close friends only? I definitely wouldn’t consider your date “set” until you have a venue.

View Quoted Comment You are exactly right! He would love that! I’ve looked at beaches and other places that have different packages that will give us just what we want. I’m definitely considering that and I know he will be satisfied with just the 2 of us

You could have the ceremony at a courthouse and have a reception with your family and friends. It would save money because you wouldn't have to have the big dress or all of the decorations etc for the ceremony

What if you got married in 2021 and then had a huge celebration for your one year in 2022 I am an April 2022 bride and the wait is long but it's gonna be worth it

I'm with your FH. I'm super frugal so I would recommend the courthouse. If you want something different nut affordable then you could always just hire an officiant and exchange vows in a park; then go out to eat at a fancy restaurant.


I even had a friend who called over 20 places to ask if they could use their space for 15 mins to exchange vows with only two guests as witnesses. 19 of them wanted to charge $500 or more just for 15 mins!!!!! One venue, an art museum, called him back and said theu could use their space for 15 mins for free, ehich is super rare.

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That is great and if you maybe want a few guests there that can be special. Maybe ask him the amount of people he was comfortable with?

I had the SAME exact situation. I was adamant about not going to the courthouse. We are planning a small ceremony with close family & friends (less than 25 pple) then we will celebrate in April. I think we just have to accept this will be a challenging time but it will end eventually and we get our husbands even after this CoVID wedding postponement season comes to an end.

When we first started talking about getting engaged, we actually looked a lot into eloping. There were a ton of places I didn't even know about that offered elopement packages for a reasonable price that still would have felt like a wedding. Can you maybe look into that and have a few guests, like 1 or 2 guests and still have the nice wedding experience? We only decided not to do it this way because I have a small family and I wanted to be able to celebrate with them because I knew how much it would mean to them. But some of those elopement packages are really great!

Sweetheart dont do a courthouse wedding you will regret it. And if you have to change again then do it.

View Quoted Comment This. Many people forget that and think it's only the big fancy party when it's not.