Wedding party dilemma.

Ok, so you're not getting married for more than a year from now. Sadly this happens a lot here with people asking their wedding party so early. Basically, if you want to keep the friendship, you shouldn't kick her out. It usually doesn't end well.

She doesn't need to do anything except get the dress and show up on the day ready to celebrate. Everything else is extra and not mandatory.

Kicking her out may end up making you look poorly. I'd really think before you do that.

You're focused on the exact wrong thing. Giving someone the role of MOH is meant as an honor to the relationship. While no one can force you to remain friends, if having nothing to do with her any more is your real intention then you need to own up to that.

But please don't make it about not being a "good fit" for the wedding party, whatever that means. If you "demote" her or tell her she can't be in your wedding party any more when she hasn't really done anything that justifies being kicked out of the party but not your life then I promise you're the one who will look bad. Not to mention the friendship will undoubtedly be over anyway. As Jacks said, her only responsibility is to get the dress and support your marriage on the day of the wedding. Anything more is optional.

So she talks about her life and her apparently abusive ex and your only concern is kicking her out of the wedding party? While I know your wedding is YOUR focus right now, it’s not the focus of everyone else’s life. Especially if it’s a year away. Give it a little time and see how things shake out. This is someone you were close enough to to ask to be your MOH not that long ago. Cut her some slack.

Don't let her ruin you moment.

View Quoted Comment No. I cut off contact with her. She's clearly stated through her behavior towards me, she's not my friend. So why waste time tolerating her bad behavior towards me and my friends and family at my wedding if there's really no friendship to keep. It's done and over with. It's my wedding, my decision.

Omg how hurtful!

View Quoted Comment Why would it be hurtful towards a person who mistreats me? Are you insane to delight in someone else's pain?

View Quoted Comment It’s hurtful for all of the reasons listed by other commenters… your MOH is supposed to be your closest friend. To kick them out of the wedding completely because they are in an abusive relationship and not giving you positive energy is hurtful

View Quoted Comment Clearly she wasn't my best freind. So get over it, because I have!

View Quoted Comment Haha why are you so angry with me 😭🫣 keep that same energy for everyone else who responded the same thing. Don’t take it out on me because you feel horrible for being a bad friend. Byeeee have a great day bridezilla 😆

View Quoted Comment It's not your problem. It's mine. So let it go.