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Wedding Party Gifts

Michelle, on January 9, 2021 at 10:48 PM Posted in Planning 0 16
Hello all,


I know it's customary to present a gift to your bridal party as a thank you to them on your big day so my fiance and I have decided that for the men, we would pay for their suits and for the women, hair and makeup. So my question is.... Are those acceptable gifts or do people expect something to remember the wedding by like those cute robes?
TIA!

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Latest activity by Hanna, on January 11, 2021 at 11:15 AM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Robes/pjs/jewelry/dresses/hair/makeup are *not* thank you gifts. They are props for pictures. Anything personalized with names/roles/date will get tossed after the wedding.


    Paying for attire and hair/makeup is great if you can afford it but that is not a gift.

    An acceptable gift is something that fits each person's hobbies/interests. They do not have to be identical but should be the same price range and value. If one groomsman likes camping or grilling, get them something related to that. One bridesmaid like Harry Potter or Star Wars, find something unique that is related on Etsy that she will like. Another bridesmaid likes crafts, get her something craft related. And the list goes on.
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I agree with Michelle. Anything wedding related isn't really a gift. Shop for them like it's their birthday, and find gifts that you really know they will enjoy.
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  • Violetstorme
    Dedicated October 2022
    Violetstorme ·
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    I agree with the above posters, try to get them gifts that are related to their hobbies or something that they can continue to use that don't include anything related to the wedding. There are plenty of things out there both custom and not that you can find at a variety of price ranges.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don’t think they expect the gifts like I was MOH and I didn’t expect to get gifts
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I agree with Michelle- getting outfits, hair & makeup is props for the wedding pics. Usually they buy their own dresses/suits. I’m paying for my MOH (my sister), my 1 bridesmaid (my daughter) & my hair & makeup- they’ll do the tip. I bought totes from Etsy & got things from various shops that I’d thought they’d like.
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    Devoted August 2022
    Bride2Be ·
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    I was a bridesmaid for 2 weddings and the first one we received little slippers to wear at the wedding which I appreciated SO much after walking around for their pictures in heels and stuff. And they gave us bath salts and a therapeutic gift box thing. The 2nd wedding, they paid for the lodge where we slept and gave us a hanger for our dress with our name on it. I honestly didn’t expect anything but all of that was MUCH appreciated since they were back to back weddings and I was BROKE afterwards. I’ll be giving my bridesmaids flannel pjs for getting ready and probably some kendra scott earrings and maybe something else but I’m gonna do the same thing for each person. The guys will get something simple but not sure about them yet. I think anything that you do they will appreciate!
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    Honestly, gifts don’t have to be expensive. You just want something to thank them for taking the time to be in your wedding. Highly recommend a well thought of letter and/or a framed picture of you and each bridesmaid. A thoughtful gift is what matters
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Check JJs house for some trinkets or even some personalized glassware from Etsy or the knot.
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  • Sav
    Dedicated November 2021
    Sav ·
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    I have been in a million weddings and only once did I receive a gift that was non-wedding related. Typically I got jewelry for the day off. Honestly, as a repeat bridesmaid I would have loved if they covered the cost of hair/makeup. Being a bridesmaid is expensive. You can get them something small in addition. Also I still have all the robes and coffee mugs that were given as gifts with my name on it. If it has you and your husbands name and the wedding date that would be completely different...
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  • Lisa
    Super October 2021
    Lisa ·
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    I agree with the other posters. Buying items for your wedding, whether hair/makeup or otherwise is not a gift. You should gift them something to suit their interests
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    Devoted April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Yeah I guess this is how I feel about it too. I've been in a bunch of weddings and I would have preferred someone pay from my hair or makeup.
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  • Sav
    Dedicated November 2021
    Sav ·
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    Honestly I would have loved for this to be done for me instead. I mean I loved all the things I was given, but this would have made me really happy.
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  • Jillian
    Just Said Yes September 2021
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    You know your party the best. If you think they’d receive that well, then go for it. I think that’s VERY generous of you! But some small token to remember the day that’s not too expensive may be nice, like a pair of earrings for everyone. I’m doing similar bracelets for my girls
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    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Amy ·
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    We have bought our bridesmaids there dresses shoes hair tan and make up nails done as well as I have got them personally from me cause my sister and daughter pearl earnings and braclets and I'm getting them a mini version of there favourite drink glass with their name on it and also there robes and putting them in cute little box and giving it to them the night before the wedding

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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
    SLY ·
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    I offered to pay for either hair or makeup for all of my ladies, but they all refused and said they wouldn't let me pay lol.

    Instead, I bought all of them a nice pajama set for their getting ready outfits. I'm not putting their wedding title on or my wedding date on it because I want them to be able to wear it after the wedding. I also bought them matching necklaces, and plan on getting them a coffee mug (they all drink coffee).

    I was in a wedding and the bride gifted us a travel jewelry case with our monogram, lotion, a necklace, and a robe. I use all of them besides the robe because it's a satin robe and doesn't stay tied, plus I wasn't a fan of the print.

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  • Hanna
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    Hanna ·
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    Paying for hair and makeup isn't really a 'gift' because it's clearly wedding-related. Many believe that the same logic applies to getting-ready attire such as robes or pjs, since these are used for photos. I paid for all of my bridesmaids' hair and makeup and got them each a set of matching silk pajamas with their initials monogrammed, but didn't consider these 'gifts' per se because I wanted all my girls to have their hair and makeup done and the pajamas were clearly for photos. Therefore, I also got them each a piece of jewelry, which was their actual 'gift' at the end of the day.

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