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Christina
Just Said Yes October 2022

Wedding Party Lineup (ex-couple)

Christina, on September 15, 2022 at 10:19 AM Posted in Planning 0 7
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Hey y’all. I’m having a bit of a dilemma with the wedding party lineup. 2 of our friends in the party recently broke up. They can be cordial but definitely wouldn’t feel comfortable walking down the aisle together. My fiancé and I are lining up the party by preference, and both friends are coming up in the same spot. My fiancé has known the groomsman way longer so it wouldn’t be fair to make him move lower. I also don’t want to move my bridesmaid lower, but I’m not sure how to go about having them walk down the aisle. I don’t want to have each bridesmaid and groomsman walk down individually, so I was thinking of having 2 bridesmaid swap couples and then switch to the correct spot up at the altar. It wouldn’t be the end of the world if they ended up not switching, but I’m just not sure what else to do. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated😅

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Latest activity by Jacks, on September 15, 2022 at 4:15 PM
  • T
    Dedicated July 2017
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    Do you think you could drop the concept of preference beyond your best man/maid of honour?

    I have been a bridesmaid a few times and also with my own bridesmaids I've always just had that the MOH / Best Man stands next to the relevant party / goes down the aisle first but beyond that its a free for all. I let my bridesmaid choose their own order but I asked my MOH to go first, although this was mostly because I know she gets the least anxious of the group!

    The other option is that your fiance's groomsmen don't walk down the aisle and simply stand at the front whilst the bridesmaids (and then yourself) walks down the aisle.

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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    I agree with pp, I would just let go of the “ranking of friendships” and bump the BM in question down a spot. I definitely wouldn’t have them switch spots at the alter either- that would make it blatant that you are ranking them, which is super inconsiderate and hurtful.
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  • Erin
    Super May 2022
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    Agree with both PPs. I’d drop the “friendship rank” concept. Some people have ordered their wedding party procession by height so that it’s more objective.
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  • Christina
    Just Said Yes October 2022
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    The only reason I considered swapping the 2 was because it would be switching with the groom’s sister who is super laidback and likely wouldn’t take it personally, especially since she knows the situation. I do think it could be awkward though so I’ll probably just scratch that idea!
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  • Christina
    Just Said Yes October 2022
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    Having the groomsmen stand at the front is a great idea. Thank you!
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
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    But they would still need to walk down the aisle together during the recessional or into the reception together if you plan on having the bridal party introduced.
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  • Jacks
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    I think lining up people based on value to the wedding couple might be sending the wrong message. Maybe trying lining up by height? Or have the groomsmen at the front already for the processional and for the recessional "weave" the bridal party, one GM, one BM, one GM, and alternate like that.

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