Wedding Party not cooperating

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your advice! you're like the only one that isn't judging me which I appreciate!!

View Quoted Comment I'm paying for their hair and make up. I don't want them to wear their hair in a way they don't like it, I just don't want it to be exactly like mine. I'm getting married in Kentucky

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If you are paying for the services, then you can ask that they wear their hair up in a way that makes them most comfortable and to follow a palette on their makeup.

I don't think there is a whole lot of judgement going on, there is a whole lot of people on here telling you that while it is your wedding, they are still people you care about and you shouldn't put them in a situation that makes them uncomfortable. The whole IT'S MY DAY screams entitlement and is such a selfish attitude especially when it comes to things as simple as attire and entrances. It's your day when you choose the food, the theme or color, or cake flavor.

Finding bilingual vendors may be a challenge but, I can see why that is important. Are there any clubs or groups that are near you that you can reach out to in order to get a couple of referrals?

Veronica- have you used the vendor finder here on WeddingWire? You can filter the results to find a bilingual officiant who speaks English and Spanish. I am sure they will work with you to have a lovely ceremony. Bilingual ceremonies are not unusual.

1.) I wouldn't force anyone to do a dancing entrance if they don't want to. If you're aware that some are excited to do it and others aren't, pair those up who want to dance or do something silly for the entrance, and pair those who would rather just walk and smile with each other. I've seen WP entrances where some pairs boogie or do something funny and some pairs just walk. They do not have to be paired with the same person from the other side that they recessed out if the ceremony with. You could even pair BMs with each other and GM with each other, or have groups with odd numbers. The MOH who wants to dance during the reception entrance does not have to enter with the Best Man who doesn't want to dance. I've seen this, too.

2.) Since you've said you are paying for your BMs hair to be done, you can stipulate that you'd prefer they not pick the same exact hairstyle as you. I would consider, though, that down in voluminous curls can be made to look a lot different person to person. I'd simply talk to the girls consideringsimilar hairstyles and politely let them know that you're fine with them having their hair down and curled, but you'd appreciate if it isn't identical to the style you're picking. If you're having a clip or anything put in, tell them where it's going to go so they can not do that, too. If yours will be completely down, let them know. Maybe they can choose to pull the sides up. Or if you want your sides pulled back, maybe they can just have theirs all the way down. You can also talk to your hairstylists about making sure no one's hair is exactly like yours, if it's that important to you, but I'd speak with your BMs first. Personally, I paid for all of my BMs to get their hair done, but let everyone puck their own hairstyles. It was more important to me that everyone get to choose a hairstyle that they felt was most flattering for them.

3.) The bilingual officiant and DJ/MC sounds like a great idea. I don't have any experience hiring one to help. I think the suggestion to speak with any clubs in the area that might focus on Mexican heritage or the Spanish language might be a good place to start. I think once you do find a bilingual officiant, that person will be able to help you create a bilingual ceremony that flows seamlessly. I would not worry about guests being bored if you have a mix of songs your Mexican friends and family love at your reception. If you have several guests enjoying themselves on the dance floor at those times, it will be infectious and several other guests who are unfamiliar with the song will feel like participating, too.

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You sound like a peach.

View Quoted Comment I don’t think their is anything wrong with you wanting them to wear their hair a certain way, even if you aren’t paying for it. It’s your day and they need to be willing to coroporate. Maybe give them options on different styles they can choose from, but your not crazy for wanting them to wear their hair up and yours down. I’m doing the same thing! As far as the entrance goes If people aren’t comfortable I would do it because it will just look weird if they all don’t participate, maybe just your and your husband can come in dancing.

You can suggest the dance and if they want to do the entrance then they can. I think if they're your "nearest and dearest" then they would want to make sure your day was everything you wanted it to be and more. However, if it really makes them uncomfortable I wouldn't want to force them to dance either. As far as hair goes...I've been in quite a few weddings and in every single wedding the bride has always requested for us to pick an up do and to not wear our hair down. I've also never had a bride pay for my hair either. I think it is almost selfish to ask the bride to pay for all of their bridesmaids hair when they're already paying for so much for the wedding. Also, I would never want to have the same hair as the bride as I would want all of the attention to be on them for their day. I hate my hair up and would've preferred to have it down for all of the weddings I've been in, but its not my day. Remember that asking them to be in your wedding is a way to honor them, but them agreeing to stand up in your wedding and be at your side on your big day is also their way of honoring you. Hair up or down though...at the end of the day you're getting married! Congrats!