Wedding Party Proposals: Overrated or Underrated?

Overrated and can easily go way over the top. I went to the dollar store and bought wine glasses and wrote on them, and then stuck a mini bottle of wine in them and handed them out. A coworker just got engaged and she's putting on these big elaborate proposals and spending an enormous about of money on each one. If you have the budget for it and want to spend that money, great, BUT personally, I think there's so much more that money could go to!

Overrated and unnecessary....that is all

I think spending a ton of money on them is overrated. I really like the bridesmaids proposals but didn't spend much money on mine. I think if it's something small, it's underrated. My bridesmaids loved my cards and bracelets I gave them!

I love this idea. I think it is a less expensive way to go about it, mostly DIY! I have already asked my bridesmaids, but I do want to do a DIY basket to give them.

I have mixed emotions about it. I think they can definitely put a squeeze on the budget. As far as my best friends and sisters I am truly hoping they will all say yes and I want them to know how much it will mean to me to have them. I’m all for the proposal. There are things I plan to pay for anyway such as robes for when we are getting ready and tumblers. I also want to get the bride tribe gear and custom totes. I’ll probably end up spending about $75 each. Since I was planning to do these things anyway the only issue is now it will have to be purchased on the front end of budget instead of the back end. I know there isn’t any pressure because we have been talking about and planning for these moments since we were teenagers. I’d rather cut something that idc about just to show honor and appreciation to those I do care about. Knowing they won’t care either way just makes me want to do it even more.

also there are small things you can get little bracelets and items under $20

I'm going to have to go against most and say underrated. I just don't agree with the unnecessary expense, just don't go over the top. We sent out 15 (bridesmaids and groomsmen) and spent no more than 100. We bought cute personalized boxes and in the groomsmen box there was a little bottle of alcohol (1.99) with a tag asking to be a groomsmen or officiant. In my bridesmaid's boxes I put "it just got real, will you be my bridesmaid" on champagne bottles (2.99). The boxes cost 3-5 bucks each. Something simple for the people closest to you to feel special and get excited for the turn up that is about to commence (my wedding) lol

https://www.etsy.com/listing/611466007/groomsmen-proposal-box?ref=user_profile&frs=1

I did it so obviously I didn't think it was overrated. It to me was a nice gesture bc it was cute stuff that they'd use and chocolate. Who doesn't like chocolate?!

The huge boxes of junk are overrated, overpriced, random items nobody will keep or treasure.

I handmade cards, and added "will you be my bridesmaid" lotto scratchers to them. Cost me like $4/person after postage.

A bit overrated. I did a little for them to put some thought into it, but barely spent any money. I was way too stressed throwing down deposits everywhere to spend a ton more.

Overrated but still a cute gesture

So overrated! I asked my girls in person/ over the phone (depending where they lived) and they were just as excited!

Overrated but cute. I was going to do them. Then I got caught up with other stuff, and wasn't able to put the proposals together. All beside one of my bridesmaids live in the same state as me, so getting to the post office or USP was just a hassle, and didn't want to spend that much money. All my bridesmaids knew they were bridesmaid. Everything I planned on doing in the proposal, I will just give as gifts the day of my wedding or at the bachelorette party.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree with Victoria on this subject!

View Quoted Comment This is the part people miss. It doesn’t have to be an expensive outlandish production. Just something besides just words. Something that can be a keepsake to remember the day they were asked. Most people are asking lifelong friends and family it will be special either way. Most importantly it can be done budget friendly. I seen someone do cupcakes with little rings in the cake and a card. Arrived at each person house got on one knee and asked. I’m sure that didn’t hurt the budget too much.

UNDERrated. I wish I proposed to mine like that. It truly is more thoughtful

100% overrated! This is something I totally don't understand. Why is a simple "Will you be my bridesmaid" not enough?

I think they are overrated but still a nice gesture to thank your bridal party for being included in your wedding. It’s a sweet gesture if you can afford it.

Overrated but I understand why the idea of a small gift, card, or token when asking is nice. It’s these elaborate boxes filled with goodies that are just toooooo much.

It was a cute trend but it has become hugely overrated. It is an unnecessary cost.

Overrated. I don’t know who came up with the whole “bridesmaid proposal “ but I bet it came from within the wedding industry as a means to getting brides to spend more money. It reminds me of the over commercialization of Valentines Day.

Then again I think bridal parties in general are overrated. Especially when you take into account their origins. They were ladies in waiting, basically servants to the bride. Especially in times when brides were kidnapped from the alter, they dressed identically to the bride so the kidnappers or bad spirits wouldn’t figure out which one was the real bride.