Wedding Party

Have 2 groomsmen and one bridesmaid and each of them walk down the aisle alone.

I completely understand, but at the end of the day it’s your wedding. It’s what you both want. There shouldn’t be any convincing. As his friend he should understand, and want whatever you both want for yourselves. I’m so sorry trust me I get it that does make it awkward or a hard predicament. I would absolutely not bend on something like that, it’s just simply not what you want, and it’s you and your fiancé’s day not the friends. That really changes the wedding drastically. If it’s not what you want I would simply just say so. His friend can still go to the bachelor party and what not but he doesn’t have to be in the wedding. If he’s a true friend he will get over it.

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Ava, that's a great idea! I originally said they can both walk my sister down hahah. He wasn't a fan of that either!

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Courtney, that is exactly what I said to him and he said that he just couldn't. I told him that I would personally call his friend and talk to him about it too. Maybe it's my FH that is sensitive about it and not his friend haha. Thank you for your advice!

Stand your groom and say NO!
He has the right to ask a 2nd guy and sides don't have to be even anyway... At my sister's wedding, there were 8 vs 4; 6 bridesmaids+2 bridesmen vs 3 groomsmen+1 groomswoman. Not a big deal at all and the photos still look great.
However: you fiancé shouldN'T force you to ask another girl if you only want 1.If he insists you should have another people, I'm sorry but he sounds like a controlling guy!In mind, your side of the WP is the only thing, besides your attire and accessories, where he doesn't have a say unless you ask for his opinion.

Agree with other posters: your girl can walk with both guys.

View Quoted Comment Piper, he isn’t controlling, he just is super close to this friend and grew up with him and knows he would be hurt if he doesn’t ask him. He was in his wedding etc etc

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He is not controlling because he wants to add his friend, he is controlling because he wants you to add another girl and doesn't want him to walk alone. Yes, this is a controlling attitude since he wants to decide how many girls you have to include...

How would he feel if you ever ask him to remove him because you only want to have a MOH and don't want uneven sides. 100% sure you would get a serious backlash, wouldn't you? So why would you do something he wouldn't be willing to do himself?

Again: no laws require the two of you to have the same number of attendants so 1 vs 2 is not a big deal, you don't have to ask a girl for him to ask hus friend! Don't worry your marriage will not be nulliefied because of that .😉.

Again #2: Your side of the WP is YOUR call, his side is his...

However, you can ask your 3 girlfriends, that way you won't hurt anyone's feelings and 4 vs 2 is perfectly fine.

Instead of the friend being a groomsman, why not let him participate in the wedding by doing a reading or something of that nature during the ceremony? Just a thought.

View Quoted Comment I think that’s a great idea, Sharonda! Maybe he could be the officiant instead since we don’t have one of those yet! 🤣

An almost 40 man is insisting on being a groomsman? He's acting like a 19 year old


Your FH gets to pick his side, you get to pick yours. If that means this groomsman has to walk alone, tough

View Quoted Comment Willow, I completely agree!

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Ha, in 2 years when this wedding happens, he should be 40 and still a bully.

Either have uneven numbers (do NOT ask people to make it even) or ask him to read a poem. Why do people think it is okay to badger people to be IN a wedding? Geez I thought the ladies were the only drama queens, lol!

View Quoted Comment Exactly! I’m definitely looking for a drama free day 🤣

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And I just re-read it - he is badgering his way in and refuses to walk alone? Girl.......give him my number as this needs to full on stop. No, you DON'T get to invite yourself, (or manipulate, pout or whatever) into a wedding and THEN DECIDE who will walk with who or announce you refuse to walk alone. And this man is almost 40???? Geez he sounds like he is eight!

If future hubs gives in, tell him he is an add on and will walk alone. Don't like it? Here is your set. What is with weddings and funerals? They make people NUTTY.

More people than not have uneven numbers (we did!) and no. One. Cares.

View Quoted Comment No, no, no, my fiancé said he thinks his friend will feel bad or hurt. His friend isn’t demanding to be in the wedding. Sorry, I should’ve been more clear

View Quoted Comment Got it! Sorry for the confusion!

Bribe him? Lol bad advice
Would his brother be okay with stepping down from the role?

View Quoted Comment That’s interesting! I will ask haha

I completely understand, but at the end of the day it’s your wedding. It’s what you both want. There shouldn’t be any convincing. As his friend he should understand, and want whatever you both want for yourselves.