Wedding Pet Peeves *Just for Fun*

Head tables that separate the bridal party from their dates. I was one of those dates once and didn't know ANYONE else at the wedding, and then some random guy tried to pick me up while my fiance was at the head table and could see everything. It was actually funny how weird this guy was - his big line was "I like to talk about religion and politics at parties. What are your religion and politics?". No thanks!

Receiving lines! (@MrsNrs, a receiving line is when the bride and groom and parents stand by the door after the ceremony to greet each guest in single file as they leave the ceremony). I just think they take way too long, especially if you have a lot of chatty guests.

I don't mind a cash bar, but I don't like not knowing ahead of time that it's a cash bar/switching to cash after a certain time, etc.

Really, my only pet peeve is inconsideration. Whether it's the couple being inconsiderate of guests by making them sit outside in 90 degree humidity while the bride fixes her hair, or multi-hour time gaps in between the ceremony and reception *solely* so that the WP can cruise around town and take pictures, or it's the guest who refuses to quiet a screaming child as the couple recites their vows, inconsideration makes my blood boil.

So much time, money, and emotion goes into planning a wedding, so I just don't understand why common courtesy towards one's friends and family often flies right out the window at weddings.

1. Cash anything (bars, dollar dance, HM jar).

2. Lack of consideration for guests (as Amanda described).

3. Giving priority to quantity over quality of anything.

1. Being invited just for the gift....(ex. a co-worker's child marries, I get an invite and I'm not even close to the co-worker)

2. Music that is too loud at the reception (I love music and love to dance but too loud is not good)

3. Creepy men thinking they can pick up women at a wedding =)

1. Family & Friends repeatedly trying to find out how much everything is costing...It's one thing if they're going to be or are engaged and they're asking to find out what they need to be working with; but I find it extremely rude to ask us all the time "how much are you spending on this? Well how much is that going to cost?? Who's paying for everything?!?" Seriously, if it's not coming out of your pocket, don't worry about it!!!

2. Cake smashing. It amazes me that people do this to one another. It's not funny, it's tacky. Why spend all the time and money to get ready and look lovely for your big day, only to disrespect your new spouse by shoving buttercream up their nose?

3. Showing up to the ceremony late or skipping the ceremony all together and only showing up for the reception...We're actually going to have a "closed door" policy for our wedding - if you show up halfway through, you're going to miss the entire show; there's no excuse for interrupting our special moment.

1. Flower girls who look like mini brides - or even more dressed than them.

2. Favors that have the bride and grooms wedding info stamped on it - I probably won't use it again.

3. Smashing cake.

4. (I can't stop) - the awkward pressure of having to go out and catch the bouquet. So glad that will be over soon.

5. Overly made up brides who don't look like themselves at all.

6. Kids

7. Clinking glasses for kisses - not happening.

8. "grand entrance" of bride and groom. We got married, not coronated.

9. Head tables

10. name hangers as gifts. I just don't get this trend. They do look cool, and I can see why people want to do them for pictures, I guess. Not my thing. But to use it as a bridesmaid gift - "Wow, you got me a clothes hanger with my name on it." I just don't get it. I feel like people make them to get a cool picture and then try to pass it off as the BP gift. Sorry if that offended anyone because I know a lot of people make them on here.

Definitely hate the things that ask for money (dollar dance or whatever)

This one is more like a planning pet peeve, but we've had SO many problems with people wanting to bring a guest. Um hello, if we let everyone bring a guest the list would double. No rando escorts, please.

1. (Planning phase) Taking your spouse to be for granted: I was in BB&B yesterday and I saw three couples fighting over their registries and I just wanted to take their scanners and throw them at them! Seriously I would give anything to have my FH here looking at plates with me. I would give anything just to be with my FH right now!

2. Lackluster Weddings: No personal touches (your initials on something dont add personal touch) I get so bored of weddings that are basically the same, different faces but the ever recurring wedding crap. Thank God for DIY brides cause the "wedding crap" sorry couldnt come up with a better word for it, its boring and been beat to death. Please for the sake of wedding guests everywhere come up with your own ideas and stop walking up and down the bridal aisles at craft stores and find a way to be unique. I'm not saying totally leave the beaten path but if you're going to spend that much money, do something worth remembering

I would say cake smashing is my worst. Its tacky, disrespectful, and a terrible way to start out your married life. I mean, come on, the best way to celebrate is not, "i love you so much! Have some cake in your face!"

After that, crying babies during a quiet moment; a photographer in your face unless you are the bride, groom, or in the WP; being invited just for the gift; the bridezilla who makes the wedding all about her. You know, there is someone else there too! Include him, why dont you?

Long lines in the bathroom as well. If you have to pee, especially wearing a wedding gown, people should move the hell out of your way!

Head tables that include the wedding party. The bride and groom, yes, they should be seperate and at a place where everyone can see them and congratulate them. They shouldnt be on a raised platform, like a king watching over his kingdom. The wedding party should be at their own tables with their dates, not up there with you while their date has to sit alone.

1. I agree with everyone else- CAKE SMASHING.

2. All tradition, no personalization.

3. Guests who are more interested in talking about whether or not the ceremony and reception lived up to THEIR expectations than talking about how happy they are for the couple. A wedding is a celebration of love and unity, not a popularity contest or a sweet 16.

1-when people comment on the "adult only reception"

2-a wedding that is 100% traditional with nothing person to the couple.

3-sweetheart table. i feel like it makes the bride and groom unapprochable

One more- officiants who don't know the bride and/or groom but try to personalize the ceremony with random facts and insights about the couple. I've seen this many times, and it's always awkward! If you're not close with the couple, just stick to the script!!

MrsNRs...its when the guest are in a line to greet &say their congrats to the couple we are doing. ;-)

1 people have thoughts on how I should spend our $ on our wedding (the old I would do this or do that) I havnt even asked you your thoughts or told you how much something cost. 2 people say CASH bars are out. They have one in a club. lol Im paying for the food and that's it. Im not a heavy drinker and everytime I go out I dont feel the need to have to have a drink so we will NOT pay thousands of $$ on wines and spirits. I will have it there if thats what they want to do with their money. If not better for us because we dont want lots of drunk sloppy people at our wedding. You can be sobber and have a good time. 3. If I hear "see that's why Im having a JOP wedding" no pun to anyone that is having one but that's not what WE want. Most of the women that say that havnt even been close to being married. What's for someone else may not be for you.

1. Not being able to hear anything at the ceremony. Hello, either speak up or get a microphone.

2. Lack of decor. My friend's wedding was like this. No really centrepieces, nothing to make it not look like a banquet hall.

3. Buffet dinners. Sorry, I know lots of people have them, but I always seem to be at the last table to get to go up.

- Asking for money, whether it is as a dance, website, etc.

- Cake smashing

- Guests adding people to their RSVP

1. Long gaps between the ceremony and reception. I know sometimes it's necessary depending on the religion, but GEESH! 3-4 hours is a long break!

2. When the MOH/BM (or anyone else in the bridal party) gives speeches using a microphone and you can barely hear them; either because they are speaking to closely to the mic, not speaking close enough into the mic, or can't use correct speech at all!! UGH! Just SIT DOWN and pass the mic PLEASE!

3. When you have someone at your table who is soon to be married, and keeps talking about THEIR plans for THEIR wedding, has an opinion about everything at the couples' wedding, and keeps critiquing the couples choices. Uhhhh, shut up and just enjoy, I don't CARE!

When people I used to be friends with a couple years ago, now our just people I used to know.... want to post on my FB saying. I better be invited

um no! where have you been? why should I invite you when we dont even talk anymore... & Its not my fault we dont talk, You can only try so much, I feel if they dont put in the effort as much as I do, why bother trying to fix a friendship... after all its takes 2! drives me crazy!

- Family members questioning us, asking why we arent sending invites to other family members that we havent talked to in years.. akward we don't talk to them.. why should they be present...

-Buffet style dinner, when you have over 200 guest, makes me cringe I remebering waiting in 35 min line with my FH at a friends wedding, we werent even hungry anymore, when we got to the carving station!

& Thats just a few!

My "wedding" pet peeves are

my mother - who seems to think its her wedding and she can do whatever she wants. no she is not helping to pay she just thinks the world revolves around her.

prices- of everything!!!

My wedding pet peeves: are you having/doing........bridal party, bouquet toss, toasts, dancing, photo booth, readings. We have planned our day to what we want there is no need for everyone to suggest what they think OUR wedding needs.

I also do not like how everyone thinks I should be freaking out or a Bridezilla. I have planned everything, so I do not have to stress out.

I think most of mine have been covered! Cash bars, money dances (really anything asking for money), seating the wedding party away from their dates, cake smashing, outdoor-only receptions in the middle of July when it's 95 degrees out.

Also what really annoys me is overly judgmental wedding guests; I went to a wedding where one girl at our table went on and on about how she didn't like the flowers, how cheap the centerpieces looked, etc. You're not on Four Weddings right now... stop being obnoxious.