Wedding Pet Peeves

It drives me crazy when girls hold their bouquet too high, like they're holding a microphone. Im not a stickler for things like that usually but that is one thing that gets to me.

When people who can afford to hire a great photographer, don’t hire a great photographer. Definitely think a photographer should always be up there with venue and ceremony location costs because a great photographer can turn any wedding location into a magical one.

Cash bars and dry weddings at night. I rarely drink,like 4 or 5 times a year. But if I go to a wedding and get dressed up (which is uncomfortable), sit with 6 or 8 people aside from my SO I don't know (again uncomfortable), buy a gift or give cash the couple asked for, and then have to pay for my drinks or not have a drink, I'm peeved.

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Totally agree with this. Don't hide your beautiful dress by holding a bouquet right in front of it!

My other pet peeve is when the groomsmen wear navy or khaki pants and they're all different shades.

View Quoted Comment Every time I’m a bridesmaid I literally keep repeating to myself “lower your bouquet, walk slow, lower your bouquet, walk slow”. I don’t like attention and when everyone is looking at me I get nervous walk fast and for some reason hold the bouquet high.

The carpet in a lot of the venues I have looked at. They are so busy and ugly!

Everyone having an opinion about your wedding - especially when it comes to the budget or actually having one because “it’s just one day and it will go by so fast you’re not going to notice so why spend the money” if I hear that from someone again, I’m not going to be able to contain myself 🤣 like seriously stop trying to guilt trip me, I can guilt trip myself enough or my cc statement can, I don’t need third party opinions if you’re just invited. End rant. Haha!

People who complain about couple's wedding, like just let them live!
I'd also second the carpets in venues, they're always the same busy damask or modern patterns you see in funeral homes. Or really bright and nowhere near nuetral! It's too busy.

Phones. My god the smartphone thing. Unless told there's no photographer, stop taking ceremony pictures and spending your time circling the couple. Kidding, even videos is weird. We have professionals for a reason, and I do not want a bunch of pictures of your mobile devices. They're not that interesting. If you're taking pictures because you're bored... leave.

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I agree with this - it's my biggest pet peeve of planning a wedding! It's my wedding, I'll do it how I want to.

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Completely agree with this. My biggest pet peeve are all of the opinions I'm getting. It drives me insane sometimes! "why aren't you doing this...why are you doing that? what about this? have you thought about that? why are you paying so much for photography? why are you paying so much for flowers?" I'm trying to just tune it all out haha.

View Quoted Comment This 🙌🙌🙌 literally same. If they are not paying they should STFU! Haha

Mine is the people at my work (mostly men, I work at an engineering firm). Whenever a guy gets engaged they’ll all joke “oh no, she’s got you tied down now, there’s still time to run!” Etc. Whenever a girl gets engaged they’ll say “how’d you trick him into that one?”.

With my wedding being 8 days away I have had people coming up to me left and right asking if I had cold feet, telling me there’s still time to back out. Offering me their car as a getaway car. Saying I must be so nervous, etc etc etc.

I know they’re kidding, but it gets old fast. Like, no, I do not have cold feet. I’ve been with my FH for 7 1/2 years and am more than ready to get married. I’m sorry you have such a dim view of marriage! I just fake smile and say “haha nope, no cold feet here”, but inside I’m saying “piss off you miserable old fart”.

Haha, sorry, it’s just been annoying me like crazy and had to get that out.

Laughing at the carpet thing because “no ugly banquet hall carpeting” was on my list of must haves for the venue! Luckily I found an amazing one that was recently renovated and has hard floors.

Random co-workers asking if they are invited to the wedding. It is really rude and it puts the bride or groom in an award and stressful situation. Bride's and groom's have enough to keep track of without being asked this question:-)

View Quoted Comment YES 🙌🏻 I so agree

Planning the wedding definitely! Everyone (and I really mean everyone has an opinion), and it’s literally on everything (even things that I thought was minor). Example, my one cousin kids are in the wedding, my other cousin (from my other side) reamed me out bc I have no kids from my dad side, it’s not all about my mom side it’s about my dad side too. One of my BM came by my house recently & saw my signs - and was sad that I didn’t ask her to help, as she’s good with that stuff (btw I didn’t know this) and it made me a bit sad. Getting gluten free/vegan cupcakes. We found a baker, they make amazing cupcakes in their regular flavors. Based on the anticipated amt of ppl that I’m having I will have 5x choices of cupcake flavors (every flavor is 24x cupcakes). However they don’t make vegan/gluten free the cupcakes have to be either vegan or gluten free & I would have to order 24x of each. I don’t like the taste of either, and don’t want 48x of the cupcakes that the majority of the guests won’t eat (to appease 5x), but I also don’t want 5x ppl to be left out. So now I have to buy 6x vegan/gluten free cupcakes from a different bakery & bring them to the venue myself & update the name cards correctly as these cupcakes will be served directly & will not be put on the cupcake stand. Oh & I have to remember to bring in almond milk for ppl coffee who don’t use dairy. And there are two ppl who are getting married after the invites are sent, but before the place cards, both are taking their husbands last name - 1x is definitely coming, 1x is a maybe so I have to remember to change their last names on the place cards to their new one. And there is more...

View Quoted Comment Yes to this!! When my fiancé told his coworkers he proposed a few of them were like “man, don’t get married!!” So rude! One guy even said “if you’re ever looking for a good divorce lawyer, give me a call.” 🤯

View Quoted Comment Haha, this!

View Quoted Comment This. It has been years since I’ve been to a wedding with a cash bar but the couple had a fancy wedding, fancy ballroom reception, 200+ guests... and a cash bar. Never chatted with the couple. Seemed showy/gift grabby—wished they cut their guest list and at least gave the rest of us beer & wine!