Wedding Planning & Chemo

I'm sure it will all be worth for your big. My identical twin sisters both got diagnosed with breast cancer a few months apart. Spent a lot of time at chemo with them. Rest when your body needs it and def listen to your body. Take each day one day at a time. I wish you all the best for your big day. Stay positive that's a big part of healing.

Thank you for coming back with an update! I remember your post after your diagnosis. I'm sorry you've been through so much, but your attitude is incredible. Please, please come back with a BAM -- those are pictures I definitely hope to see. I can't wait to see the dress you've made, how incredibly special it must be. I love the quote for the end of your ceremony; it is perfect. May you, indeed, live happily ever after!

My sister is a two time breast cancer survivor. They have medication you can take to prevent the nausea!
You touched my heart with your post. It brought back the tough times I shared with her during chemo.
As I told her, it takes so much courage, and strength to face breast cancer, chemo and it's affects on you.
I wish I could send some of my strength to you! God bless you! I wish you a full recovery and the happiest ever after imaginable.
I too would love to see your dress!!!

Wishing u a full recovery & a wonderful wedding day.. good luck with everything sweetie❣️❣️

I'm sorry you have been having such a stressful time but the fact that you have such a positive attitude is so wonderful. I cannot wait to see your dress, how exciting that you are designing it yourself. How blessed you are to have such a wonderful fiance and people in your life. I wish you the best if luck in everything and cant wait to hear all about your special day.

Ask the doc to write B12 injections for you on a weekly or twice weekly basis. It really helps with detox and energy. Also if l may suggest a book called "Iodine..why you can't live without it." Forwarded by Dr. Brownstein. There is also an iodine yahoo group you can join. Know of lots of breast cancer survivers that used iodine to heal Themselves. Look into it! Best luck sis

I absolutely love your attitude, choosing to remain focused on the positive in every aspect. I'm sure there are times that you feel like you are at the end of your rope and have shed more than your fair share of tears and anger, but your outlook is beautiful. That mini spa day sounds like a fantastic outing and I am so glad to hear that your friends stepped up to the plate and did what they could to help treat you to a relaxing pampering day of down time.

I know what I am about to say is cliché, but it's true what they say, "when it rains, it pours". I know that feeling all too well, feeling like things can't get any worse and you think you're at your limit when ::WHAM!!!:: you get hit with an uppercut by the chaos of life. After a while you just become numb and the hits almost stop stinging so much because you just start to expect the hits. The only way to get through it is to take minute by minute, second by second and to make the conscious effort to take the time to see the beauty in every thing.

I haven't heard that quote of what your officiant is going to say, but it is absolutely perfect and beautiful. If you don't mind, I would love to use it in our ceremony as well. I do not have cancer, but I am chronically ill with multiple debilitating disorders that have developed after an on the job attack. I have Syringomyelia, Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, and PTSD. I met my fiancé 6 months after the attack happened and each year my health gets worse and worse. He's been my rock through every treatment, procedure, and surgery. I had a spinal cord stimulator implant installed in 2017 and I couldn't even get out of bed on my own, let alone walk for over a month after surgery. He helped me use the bathroom, sponge bathed me, changed my bandages, and just did everything he could to make it as easy for me as possible. One morning I woke up to find a whole bunch of 3 day old baby chickens all over my bed. I had been so depressed that I couldn't go out and see my animals, so he brought them to me. It may sound silly, but having all those cheeping little balls of fluff climbing all over me made my heart soar. Financially I was hit very hard because even though I did eventually accept the retirement offer given to me, for the first 8 months or so I had no income. I went from a very physical lifestyle of biking 50 miles every weekend, rock climbing, backpacking, traveling internationally, working a job in law enforcement, to not being able to complete a grocery store run without being on the floor for days after in pain. I gained 40lbs and went into a deep depression.

After years of struggle we bought our dream house in 2015. 9 acres with old stone walls running through the woods, 3 creeks and a waterfall, on a lake, bordering 1,200 acres of protected state land, pear, apple, and peach trees, grapes, raspberries, black berries, blueberries. 3 beehives, chickens, rabbits, maple syrup... our paradise. This was the place where we planned on spending our lives together and possibly adopting and raising a family. This is where I feel comfortable and safe. It felt like that perhaps this was what all that suffering was for. Then this spring we found out that he is losing his job and there is no local equivalent. Luckily he did find another job, but with an $80,000 pay cut so we are losing our home and I feel as if I am losing my safe place. After losing my career, and my health, this hit hard. I know deep down that it is material and what is truly important can't be measured with anything tangible, but that doesn't make it hurt any less. We don't even know where he will be stationed yet and won't find out until the end of next month. We thought about postponing the wedding, but we have put thousands into down payments already and so decided to keep it, just cut the guest list and amenities. I know that I am blessed and that there are so many others that are way worse off. I have to remind myself of that and need to tell myself constantly to be grateful and less self centered. It's a constant struggle. The positive thing though, is that my fiancé and I have been through very hard times and come out stronger, wiser, and more committed to one another. "For richer or poorer, sickness and in health, good times and bad", we know that we can do it and have done it and we know that we are building our marriage on one heck of a solid foundation, and so are you and your fiancé. This may sound odd, but when one is faced with their own mortality, one really does start tom appreciate the "little things" and look at the world through different eyes. Once you experience something like that, you can't go back. Personally speaking, I am thankful that I have learned some very hard lessons and I pray that I continue to find strength in any negative situation that life throws at me.

I apologize for the essay, but your post really resonated with me. I wish you a speedy recovery and I will be sending positive vibes your way. I wish you and your future husband every blessing in the world and pray that you both continue to find comfort, strength and love in one another in the many years to come.

PS: Please post photos of your wedding dress that you are making after your wedding!!! I would love to see it!