Wedding Planning Going Too Slow?

With the wedding industry the way it is this year and next you being on top of it is a good thing. I got engaged last June and had everything booked except cake by Jan 1. We're planning on ordering bulk cupcakes so no need to rush on the planning there. It was slow for awhile, but the wedding is next March and I can already feel things ramping up especially since Im getting into my busy season at work. Next week are engagement photos, then we need to finalize the guest list and start building the wedding website so we can have save-the-dates out by September. Wedding dress shopping July 2nd, August is 6 months out where we'll do tastings, and pay all the final deposits, then more and more and more and more. It creeps up much faster than you think. Yes, there are slow times and there may only be one big milestone a month but there are all the little details you can start thinking about too. Ordering bridesmaid color swatches, looking at decoration, etc.

I also feel like had I put my mind to it I truly couldve had this whole thing planned in a weekend lol.

Ignore your family and do what you want. Stuff gets booked up, so the more you can knock out ahead of time, the better. I honestly feel like in a few weeks I had pretty much everything done to the point I'd sit and worry about not doing anything. But I'd rather have nothing to do than be stressed about having everything to do.

View Quoted Comment I feel that I enjoy the hustle and bustle of things. I am not someone who enjoys being home unless I have something to do.

If you enjoy planning, do it! I loved it. The only reason you may not want to plan too much is if something changed then you have to re-plan/double plan. I would download wedding to do checklists and do anything that can be done. Can’t make place cards because you don’t know who is attending, but you can check out what styles you like and add them to your cart. I used zazzle. You could think of a signature drink and make a cute photo in a frame for the bar. Have fun!

You could start dress shopping! My dress took about 6 months to come in so it’s probably a good time for you to start and then you’ll have time for alterations when it does come!

I wouldn't listen to your family and do as much as you can now. It also helps spread the expenses out!

You can help me with mine 🤣

Hair and makeup book fast! You could schedule trials for those and book if you're doing them. Also any extras, for example live painting, iberico ham carving station, and unity ceremony glass artists (all of which I'm doing).

I disagree with your family. So many vendors are booking up for 2023. It's best to book as early as possible.

I have venue, DJ, photography, videography, florist, cake, caterer, and dress shopping on Saturday. My date is April 15, 2023. Working on bridal party proposals next.

My fiancé and I are getting married in April of 2023 as well. I thought I would want this much time to plan, but now I am dealing with having too much time I feel like. I have been trying to figure out what to tackle next and when I think I have figured it out, I get told that it is too soon to plan that portion. I never thought I would get told it was too soon to plan.

We were engaged in late 2019 - we had 60% of our wedding planned before I had to cancel due to COVID.

This time I am giving ourselves 6 months to plan, honestly other than the price was higher than last year, I am doing just fine.

After the vendors are booked, the timeline is made, there are not many more major items to worry about.

If you are a crafty person like me, I suggest you can start working on the decorations. I am doing my flowers myself with fake flowers (i.e. Ling's Moment), buying a scrapbook and decorating it to make it my wedding photo guest book...etc.

Hope this helps

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I know you're probably joking, but I'd be happy to help if you need it!

I feel you girl, I already have the venue, photography, catering, music, already sent Save the Dates, starting to look at cakes as well. We aren’t having any bridesmaids or groomsmen, we’re just waiting on his brother to let us know if he wants to officiate or not so we can hire a JOP if he decides not to. I’m going to go dress shopping in July.

Girl same I'm in marketing for a living and I've got venue, caterer, DJ, officiant, photographer, and flowers. I'm in a shore town in Jersey so I feel like if I don't book it all early, it'll all get snatched up by vacationers. In a crappy way, it also helps my anxiety to scratch all these things off my to-do list. Been trying to let more little detail things go til later too!!

Honestly, I was the same way: had all the major stuff booked before 4 months were out- even had my dress purchased (but later had to change that when my family also asked the date to pushed off a year).

It has allowed me to relax and enjoy the approaching day. I think planning ahead as much as possible is a good thing.

I was supposed to have a 2 year engagement which accidentally turned into 3 due to covid 😆 so I pressed pause for a full year and deleted my wedding wire app so I wouldn't be reminded of it and sad. But during the beginning of planning, I just did a few of those key big things you've done, and then let myself get on with regular life and work. I really really really enjoyed having 2 years to plan because otherwise I would have suffered in some part of my life in order to plan quicker. This way I could still do other things for fun and focus on work when it was necessary, and not feeling guilty about not wedding planning. So I'd maybe just reframe your view regarding the extra fluff time. And then in the last 6 months I recommend doing everything ahead of time because sometimes things don't work or get late and then if you try to be early, you're on time. 😅 But as an event planner, I'm sure you know how that goes.

I've been enjoying planning the honeymoon when I don't have wedding things to focus on! and also we have to plan our own rehearsal dinner, so that too! Happy planning!

I’ve been engaged for a year but we are only just now starting the planning process. We booked our venue and set a date last week and now I’m trying to lock in videographer and photographer and DJ all ASAP our date is fall of 2023 but I just know if I wait too long I’ll be so stressed! I say get it all out of the way! Lock in the people that you love for the prices they are offering now! We all know how quickly things get booked up in this industry

To me it sounds like you have hired some vendors which is very good. There are so many other details that you can be addressing ahead of time…creating sample invites, purchasing stamps, working on the invite list with addresses, what exactly will table centerpieces look like, table #’s, how will you display table assignments, how will you honor family members that have passed, wedding shoes & jewelry & undergarments, wedding signage, wedding timeline, details of ceremony, transportation olfor wedding party, songs you do NOT want played, songs you want played, honeymoon arrangements, hotel block, gift registry, bridesmaid/groomsmen attire, parents of bride attire, wedding programs, wedding menu, wedding favors….still a lot you can be working on! These were just a few things I thought of off the top of my head! Keep on planning!

View Quoted Comment I have researched and picked out everything. Just no one wants me to purchase it yet or even go try on bridesmaids. They all want to wait. I’ve picked out everything I wanted in the first few weeks/months. Even my fiancé doesn’t want to do the wedding stuff. He would rather go down to the courthouse and “get it over with” as he states.