Wedding Planning... How's it going?

I'm feeling very calm and serene in regards to planning tho I do have some time. I've sent my contract to my venue and am just waiting for them to call to get the deposit. Thankfully they're pretty all inclusive, so they include ceremony and reception location, food, cake and open bar! All I really need to hire is a DJ, which I found one who's got a pretty decently priced package that includes an officiant and a Photographer!

My FH isn't too involved, he came on the venue tour and liked it as well so we booked it, our wedding is scheduled for 9/2/22 so he has some time to get involved.

My mom has been my biggest help, mainly because she just listens to me and my excitement haha.

The most stressful is including my FH's parents in planning, they demand to be involved but at this point there's nothing to involve them in since we booked our venue planning is kind of on hold for a couple months as that was our main concern.

Anyone helping you plan? -- My FH has been helping me plan, but I'm doing most of it lol.

How involved is your partner in the process? -- His tasks are finding a caterer and DJ. I also come to him for his opinion on things like: colors, cake flavors, what suit he wants to wear, stationary & decor design.

What's been your favorite part/the most exciting? -- I really loved making our wedding website! It's fun to have a personalized home base that all our guests can refer to! I'm also excited about seeing things come together!

What's been your least favorite/most stressful? -- Having my mother being involved...I actually had to tell her that I was going to give her some space from wedding planning. She's very opinionated and wants us to have this large black tie affair, when that's not who my FH and I are. We're simple and laid back, and don't need to 'show off' for anyone.

Advice for others? -- Breathe and relax! Do things one step at a time, and don't get overwhelmed. Don't let other people 'bully' you into having the wedding THEY want. It's okay to feel stressed and tired out from planning, just remember to give yourself some time to distance yourself from planning. Take some time off to recuperate and not think about 'wedding stuff'.

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It is so nice to have a venue that is all inclusive so there isn't much you have to stress out about. Also great that you found a dj with many services!

Same thing with me and my mom! I call her about everything related to wedding planning, whether it's something exciting or to vent. It's so nice to have that kind of relationship.

Yes, since the wedding is a while out, unfortunately there isn't much your FH's parents can help with. Glad planning has been a good experience for you so far!

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That is nice your FH is a part of the planning with you or at least have some tasks! Mine prefers me to plan and then come to him before I make the final decision so he can hear about it and agree or disagree before we finalize or hire vendors.

I actually just started on my website yesterday and that was pretty fun to work on!

Great advice and thanks for sharing!

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You're welcome!

He isn't overly involved lol, but I'm grateful that he's willing to help some! I agree, the website is fun to work on!!

Any one helping you Plan.

Anyone helping you plan? Really just me, I'll run ideas by my FH and talk to my MOH and my mom and aunt

How involved is your partner in the process? Not super involved as he is busy with school, and we sill have a year and 8 months until the big day, but I run everything by him just to make she he's okay. Still value his opinion 100%

What's been your favorite part/the most exciting? Browsing the internet for ideas and seeing everything come together and discussing with my MOH

What's been your least favorite/most stressful? Family drama for sure, trying not to let that get to me too much

Advice for others? Have fun and don't sweat the small things, everything will come together and you'll have a beautiful day!

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I'm mostly planning myself, but will share ideas I have with my mom and wedding party. I also share ideas with my fiance and confirm he's okay with my decisions so far.

Also will be hiring a wedding coordinator.

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Same here with planning and partner!

Yes, browsing the internet has been lots of fun (pinterest and these forums have been helpful as well).

Thanks for sharing!

Anyone helping you plan? --- My fiance and I are planning our entire wedding ourselves!

How involved is your partner in the process? --- Very much so! I do take the lead on the planning and keeping us on track, but my fiance and I make almost every decision together, from centerpieces and table numbers, invitations, vendors, tastings, etc. It's also a great way for us to continue to bond and work together on planning everything.

What's been your favorite part/the most exciting? --- Taking our engagement pictures and doing the food/cake tastings has been so fun for both of us!

What's been your least favorite/most stressful? --- All of the unsolicited opinions we get about how people think we should plan our wedding, and also the stress of having people (who we aren't close with and weren't planning to invite) request invitations. COVID also initially caused a bunch of stress, but since we postponed, it's been way less stressful! We're just waiting it out since our wedding is 90% planned.

Advice for others? --- Keep calm and enjoy the process! Don't spend time or energy on drama. Instead, do what you and your fiance most want for your wedding. Enjoy the cake and food tastings, have fun with the engagement photos, and don't stress! Things usually have a way of working out in the end. Happy wedding planning!

I’m married now but here are my answers:

Anyone helping you plan? No but some of my friends helped me do tasks

How involved is your partner in the process? I gave him specific things to do

What's been your favorite part/the most exciting? I think I just enjoy overall the design and looking up ideas because looking at wedding stuff is exciting

What's been your least favorite/most stressful? It was for sure annoying to handle logistics

Advice for others? Keep things simple

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That is so nice you guys are planning it together! I'm sure that makes it way more fun to have him involved.

I cannot wait for food/cake tasting, that part seems very enjoyable!

COVID - yes, the cause of many unknowns for wedding planning right now! Also going through that right now, and my have to postpone my summer 2021 wedding until next year!

Thanks for sharing!

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What type of tasks did you give your partner to do?

View Quoted Comment He was in charge of getting the alcohol and we had a candy table so I let him choose a couple of candies that he would like it so he would look for those and things like that. It felt like he was more excited for those particular task

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I'll need to come up with tasks like that for my fiance to help out and be more involved.

Thanks for sharing!

I feel fine and relaxed. I know that nothing can be perfect but I'm excited to celebrate our love and us

Anyone helping you plan? I'm pretty much planning everything myself like you said. My bridal party, mostly my MOH are helping but my venue includes a DOC and one of my friends has offered to be my Day-Of-Assistant as well so I'm pretty much set.

How involved is your partner in the process? Minimal. He speaks up about what he likes and doesn't like but he mostly just wants me to have what I want (which doesn't help lol).

What's been your favorite part/the most exciting? Favorite part - deciding on my dress and bridesmaids dresses. Most exciting - seeing our venue for the first time. We were in love.

What's been your least favorite/most stressful? Least Favorite - people asking for an invitation! Most Stressful - shrinking this guest list!

Advice for others? Even if you get overwhelmed, try to take a deep breath, walk away then come back to it. Be patient and positive with yourself (and your partner). Allow people to help you if you need it!

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Yes, I know what you mean! My partner is pretty clueless about wedding planning and ideas, so I just come up with them and make sure he's okay with it.

Thank you for sharing!

I've been planning for a year and a half now. My fiancés is helpful if I give him tasks. But mostly I've been planning myself and just asking for opinions from my family, friends and fiance. My favorite part of planning was the dress shopping. My least favorite was the venue, I have a vision in my head of how I want everything to look but with covid we are now having it in the backyard and it's kind of hard to see the backyard as a wedding venue.


My advice for anyone else is plan for things to not go as planned. Try not to over obsesse over the materialistic part of the wedding. Remember what's important and that is that you are marring the person you love and at the end of the day that's the only thing that matters. Also have a plan b. And again things will not go 100% as you planned/visioned so be prepared for it. We started planning in August 2019. We originally planned to have 120 guests. Have our wedding at this beautiful conservation club with an open bar. Now we are having a backyard wedding, 60 guests, no bar services just help yourself coolers full of drinks. And we still don't know how we are having the ceremony. We were forced to change our plans with the wedding more times than we can count. Everything is up in the air because yes we are planning for the backyard wedding but we don't know how things will look in August things could change for the better or worse.

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Trying on dresses was a lot of fun! Seeing all the different styles and the narrowing down which ones you like best. Yes, same, venue searching was my least favorite because my finance didn't enjoy it but I needed him there to see if he liked it and could see us getting married there.

Thanks for sharing! Hope your vision comes together for the backyard wedding you are now planning!