Wedding Planning is challenging!

The most difficult part of wedding planning for us was moving things around and the unknown's of Covid. The actual planning of events as far as aesthetics and location was easy. We had a beautiful wedding location and I planned decor around the room and venue. When we post-poned from June 2020 to December 2020 a few things had to change due to the time in season's but it worked out beautifully. We loved our December wedding and it was an unexpected perfect change for us.

I really enjoyed wedding planning overall. To me, the most challenging and stressful part of wedding planning was our guest list! Between my wife's big family, our friends, and my desire to have a smaller wedding (<100), it was hard to make a guest list.

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Omg, I feel you! My FH kept dragging his feet about asking his groomsmen to be his groomsmen. I had already made our wedding website, put in all the info for the wedding party (he knew who he was going to ask), and had the save the dates made with the website info on the back of the cards. I basically had to tell him that he needed to ask NOW before I give everyone their save the dates and people find out they're supposedly in the wedding party that way 🙄

At first I thought deciding on a color scheme was going to be the most difficult part, but then Covid hit and we postponed our wedding to August 2021 and now everything is a breeze haha

View Quoted Comment Yes very annoying. I would literally show my friend/family member what im working on (while working on it) and what the idea of the finished product and they would suggest I change something or do something completely different. Like um hello, why would u suggest something else. I did a lot of diy. Sometimes suggestions are annoying but worth seeing their point of view and other times its like NO!

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Good for you! Honestly, those projects will mean so much to you on the day of your wedding when you see them all come together and know YOU did it yourself!

Wedding opinions are EVERYWHERE - WeddingWire has it's fair share of them for sure LOL. You learn to share what needs to be shared and keep some of those exciting details to yourself. Someone will always have a contradicting opinion - but this is your day! Your opinion matters the most!

View Quoted Comment Yes. I would roll my eyes & keep on pushing. Like I just spent this $150 on supplies at Michaels but ur giving me random ideas on Pinterest that I’ve already seen & completely opposite of what I showed you. Thanks for ur input. *rolls eyes* as Im applying my hot glue gun lol.

View Quoted Comment This was me until covid happened now im forced to make a seating chart. At first I didn’t care like grown ppl can figure out how to seat themselves. Dont stress me out trying to figure out where to seat them.

View Quoted Comment I agree with everything you said 100%!! There are a lot of opinions, and you end up second guessing every decision to accommodate everyone else. And there are so many options, it’s overwhelming! It took me forever to pick a wedding invitation and I had to pick because I was running out of time. If you’re still looking by the way, I recommend Shine wedding invitations. I’ve gotten so many compliments on them! I’ve gotten to the point where I just say this is what it is because my fiancé and I like it and keep it moving.

The hardest thing for me is second guessing myself. Feeling the pressure of having a good wedding. I am the first person in my family to have a wedding. So everyone is excited to attend. Second I never planned a wedding before. I don't want a wedding planner I want to be apart of planning my special day.

Wedding planning had definitely been the most stressful experience and adding a pandemic to the mix makes it almost unbearable at times. I would say for me the most challenging part of planning is the lack of emotional support both my fh and I have received. There’s a lot of input and objections to what we’ve planned but very little compassion for how stressful this is especially in covid era. It’s been very lonely to be honest and if I’ve known what I do now I don’t think I would even bother planning a wedding because everyone has an opinion and the constant opposition does get to you after a while. Unfortunately I have not found a way to combat this. Just yesterday I was ready to cancel. So.... yeah ..

View Quoted Comment Omg yes this is my mom and MIL.

The most challenging thing for us is unsolicited advices from the bride's parents.
We don't care about them coz we know what we want and what we don't want, plus we're on the same page about everytging. But it's still annoying.
This is the why we wantzd to pay to foot the entire bill even though they offered to contribute. NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Don't want them to give us a 75+ people list out of 110-130 (guest count not final), especially thise my fiancée has never/barely met or she doesn't want to invite at all: some of their uncles,aunts,coworkers, friends.It's Not gonna happen! In another life, maybe! 🙂Or I don't want them to get a say on our non-tradtional WP ( siblings only but 1 best woman,1 groomswoman,1 man of honor, 1 bridesmaid ).

The most challenging thing was dealing with other people's expectations. Parents on both sides wanting the day to be a certain way... but their visions contradict each other. (one side wanted a grand wedding and the other side wanted a chilled wedding) I'm a bit of a people pleaser so ended up trying to please everyone which ended up being pretty stressful.

I also tried very hard to accommodate everyone and make everyone feel included. Including family members in the day as much as possible so they don't feel left out. But sometimes it was impossible to include everyone in the way they wanted, because multiple people might've wanted to do the same thing. Also trying really hard to accommodate everyone's dietary requirements and preferences (which actually kept changing as we planned would you believe).

I come from a culture where you look at yourself more as part of a community rather than as an individual so you end up putting others' needs before your own. Not really a good mindset to go into while planning a wedding. To any others in the situation, I recommend just putting your foot down and making your own decisions. Would save you a lot of stress!