Wedding planning resentment

Hi all, we got engaged around 4 weeks ago, and our wedding is early September this year. So far this is what we’ve accomplished:


Booked venue, caterer, cake vendor (as a package. We still have to sample)
Booked photography and DJ (as a package)
Ordered wedding dress (arrives end of august, then mad dash for alterations)
Booked pre-Cana class (we are Catholic)
Booked church for ceremony
Contacted ceremony musician (last week, have not received a reply)
Ordered save-the-dates (I’ve addressed my envelopes, FH has not. I’m waiting to mail mine until his are ready but it’s been like 2 weeks and he’s made no moves on it yet)
Bought plane tickets for a weekend in July to sample catering and do a hair trial (our wedding is in his hometown, out of state)
We’ve done nothing else. I’m starting to feel resentful because it was really important to him to have our wedding in his home church and home town, and it’s important to me because it’s important to him. But some of the concerns I raised when we agreed to this involved the stress of planning a long-distance wedding. He has strong opinions on things whenever I do bring up a decision. But he will not initiate any planning conversations. He was more willing to participate in the conversations before, but he seems to withdraw more from the planning more and more lately. I’ve only brought up wedding-related stuff once in the last week because I’m really hoping he will bring it up.
Yes, I have talked to him about this. A few times now. He just acknowledges that he needs to do better and he validates me by saying that it is important and we both wanted to get married sooner rather than later so he appreciates the initiative I’ve taken.
A part of me just feels like his lack of planning is indicative of a larger hesitation on his part about getting married. He reassures me it’s not. Even if I were to plan everything myself and just accept that it’s not his thing (I am a planner), I feel a bit petty that we are doing all of this in his hometown, which means that my relatives and friends m have to travel farther than they otherwise would, but he can’t be bothered to send out save-the-dates or talk to his best man.
I’m just feeling bad about the whole thing. On the one hand, I tend to be extremely forceful, decisive, and focused when it comes to planning. He’s just ok procrastinating and we have different styles in that regard. One isn’t right and the other isn’t wrong. I’m just feeling bad because I don’t like feeling resentful toward him and I certainly don’t like creating negative feelings around the commitment of marriage.
Has anyone else had this issue with their fiancé? How did you resolve it? Thanks