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Katie
Beginner September 2019

Wedding Program/deceased Parent

Katie, on August 30, 2019 at 1:56 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 10
When doing wedding programs, often the parents are included. What do you do if the mother of the groom has passed away, the biological father was never in the picture and the abusive step father (the only father he's known, but still isn't coming to the wedding)?
I definitely want to acknowledge his mother at the end of the program with those that aren't with us any more, but for the top part should it only be bride's parents?

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Latest activity by Courtney, on August 30, 2019 at 9:39 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I would definitely still list mom under parents of the groom. You would just write it as "The Late Sue Smith." It's up to him if he wants his father, biological or step, to be included.

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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
    Ivy ORP ·
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    I think it might look odd if only your parents are listed and he has no one, but does he have siblings or aunts and uncles he can list instead? Maybe instead of specifically listing parents as "parents of", you could thank them and he could thank whoever he chooses. Just my thought though and it really is up to the two of you.

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    I think I would put the bride's parents and then his mothers name with "late" in front. So something like "Mr. and Mrs. Jones and the late Mrs. Smith" maybe?

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  • Katie
    Beginner September 2019
    Katie ·
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    Thanks Caytlyn 🙂
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  • Ivy ORP
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    Ivy ORP ·
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    I like that too.

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  • F
    Devoted October 2019
    Future Mrs Wilson ·
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    My fiance's mom passed abt 5 yrs ago. We will have his sister stand in for her to give him away. However we are only listing his dad as his parent on the program
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  • Sarah
    Devoted April 2022
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    My parents passed when I was 9 and 14. I plan to make the headings “family of _______” rather than “parents of _______” in the program. I’ll then list my parents both as “the late _______” and then also list the two aunts who I’m going to have walk me down the aisle.
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  • S
    Devoted October 2019
    Summer ·
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    We are deciding between "In honor of" or "In memory of" for our daughter that passed away, maybe you guys could do the same for his mom. And sorry for your guys' loss.
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  • A
    Expert August 2019
    Ami ·
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    This is what I would do!
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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    You could honor his mom by doing a prayer at the start of the ceremony. We're do that for a couple of reasons:

    -Opted out of programs to save money

    -Had a blanket prayer for "those who are in spirit. FH and I have both lost family members that left good and bad legacies. We wanted to honor those that truly meant something to us; but not call out those that we're the greatest people in our lives.

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