wedding reception with christian and non christians

Celia, I never understood it either - Pentecostals are so strict!!! They don't drink alcohol, some women don't wear pants, they don't swear or use cuss words, they don't dance unless they're at church....and some don't even wear make-up....This is why I don't practice it. My mom is Pentecostal, she doesn't drink alcohol, but she says its ok if others do it as long as they don't get drunk....Oh and she doesn't wear pants either....Christians have the same believes as Pentecostals but not as strict....They have gotten better now but OMG 15yrs ago Pentecostals were SUPER strict.

ETA: Think The Duggars - something like that is what Pentecostals are....

I'm a christian and the reason why a lot of christians don't drink is because they believe it's a sin to get drunk (because being drunk alters your mind and yourself). My dad is a pastor but he still has a glass of wine now and then. He doesn't get drunk from it obviously, and I think that's the difference. Both me and FH's families are christian but we'll still be serving alcohol and have music (but obviously no inappropriate songs). I'll be honest though, there are some people i'm not inviting because I know the simple fact that we're serving alcohol and having secular music would make them feel uncomfortable and I would rather not put them (or us) in that position

I get you, i feel the same way for the most part, its not me its more of my older guests, people who are more old fashion, i feel that if you do everything respectfully there shouldn't be a problem @celia milton

its not that both can't coexist cause they can and they do, i just want everyone there christian and non christian to enjoy everything equally and i want to have a blast

@jessica i agree with you 100% my father is also a pastor and my mother has her wine every now and then as well

@futuremrspereira - a lot of the pentecostals are old fashion but a lot has changed, i wear makeup i wear pants and i do my nails, i don't curse cause i personally don't like it but i still serve the Lord, as long as i don't do any of these things in vulgar way, I'm not doing anything wrong

To me this is not a huge deal. I am a christian and most of my family are not christians. I plan to serve alcohol and whatever music I will like. Some of the christians stay away from alcohol which is fine they can but I won't be. Some hate secular music but I am doing that too. I have decided to just not worry about it you only get this day once. There's nothing wrong with having a bit of wine even Jesus drank wine! I say do what you want to do and let the rest fall into place. I am sure it will be fine. Some guest may feel uncomfortable but hey it's your day. I am more of a seventh day adventist so I am not sure if yours is more of a Catholic denomination but I know mine can be pretty strict luckily I am the only one who is one but I feel your pain lol.

I think they will; I'd probably avoid some of the music with more suggestive lyrics (which frankly, I don't get at a wedding anyway, and I curse like a sailor in real life) .

yikes. The Duggars. That's another thread. Oh wait, we had that already.

It seems to me that the most religious trouble we can get into is when 'God's rules' for us are created by humans.....

That is true, a lot of the rules weren't even created by God, they were man made rules,

but i think ill have the drinks and music either way, i want to celebrate my union, the ceremony will be very christian pentecostal like, but i want the reception to be happy and fun, i will warn the crazy drinkers to tone it down cause its not a club and tell the strict christians to loosen up a bit cause its a party not a church service and not everyone there will be christian

Ok so we are in the same boat. Thinking about hosting an early lawn garden ceremony followed by a cocktail high tea reception for about 60 minutes. Once this concludes transition into the "after cocktails wedding celebrations" where we will have a bar, dancing, and heavy food items for these guests... Let me jnow your thoughts? How would I properly word this? Also what would be the best way to transition the guests. One ballroom on lower level then after cocktail party main ballroom