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Wedding Registry -- How expensive is too expensive?

Nicole, on July 11, 2021 at 10:42 PM Posted in Registry 0 8

My fiance and I are in our early 30s and already have high-end items that would typically be put on a wedding registry. I have a kitchenaid pro, a dyson vacuum, a roomba vacuum, china set, fine waterford crystal, great knife set, etc. because I work hard and wanted all of these things without having to wait to get married.

Now I am in a bind because people are asking when we will post the registry but I feel beyond guilty adding anything on it because we already have all that we could need. Perhaps we could upgrade our pots to copper but this could be $500 + and I feel like that is outrageous for a wedding registry. My mom is insistent that a honeymoon fund is tacky and that we can find some affordable things to add that are tangible.... but I really don't want people to waste money on things that we wouldn't need.

Am I overthinking this? Could we add non-traditional items like a set of golf clubs and break it up per club to lower the price? Even then, that still feels too expensive... I guess could also add to my crystal collection but each glass is about $80 -- and if I am being honest with myself, I think part of my concern is that I don't want people feeling like I am bragging about where I am at in life because I am asking for $80 glasses. The whole thing makes me so uncomfortable.

Any suggestions or advice would be so appreciated.

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Latest activity by Meghan, on July 12, 2021 at 10:28 AM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah Online ·
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    Just skip the registry. Guests will just give you cash, as everyone knows cash is a good gift. And you avoid offending anyone who thinks a honey fund is tacky. Plus you also avoid the fees honeyfunds charge.
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  • Lisa
    Super October 2021
    Lisa ·
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    We are in a similar boat so we opted for no registry. You can buy whatever you want with the cash given.
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    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    I used Zola for my registry and they had an option to make certain gifts “group gifts”. So for the bigger ticket items we set it up that way, so guests can either purchase the entire thing or contribute to it. If someone contributes $100 for a $200 item and no one else puts in the other half, you get the cash. I also think in this case if you do a very limited or no registry people will just give cash.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    You are definitely overthinking. A registry is essentially a wish list of stuff you would never spend your own money on, but guests want to buy for you to share your happiness.

    Have a wide range of prices. Some will not be able to afford more than $5 or 10, while others won’t blink at all dropping $500-2000+.

    Why do people think a registry is for towels and toasters only? Register for camping gear, furniture, electronics, card games, etc that you will use together.

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    VIP September 2020
    Willow ·
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    I'd skip the registry
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    Dedicated October 2021
    Tammy ·
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    It totally disagree with your mom. She's being old school and working out of an expired set of etiquette rules. Now days it is more convenient to just contribute to a fund and let the couple buy what they want versus scrolling through 100 items on a registry. You can apply the money to anything Furniture, art, trip ect. Why don't you do both? Have a honeypot fund to do what you want with, you can say honeymoon, renovation, new appliances, furniture ect whatever you think you'll use it on and then also have a few items that you really do want. That way you get the best of both worlds and people who don't want to spend 80 have the option to spend a custom amount.
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    Becky ·
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    Try to think of activities the two of you like to do together. If it's golf, then put a set of clubs, some balls (whatever it is one needs to play golf); if it's board games, put some games you don't have on - essentially you can put anything on that you would use as a couple. If you get it, great, if not, people will give money.

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  • Meghan
    Expert September 2021
    Meghan ·
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    I would add the items you’d truly love to have and use. My fiancé didn’t want me to add a $550 item on the registry and it was one of the first items purchased. It’s a big event and loved ones may want to spend a tad more for items you can have forever. I also added a bunch of items because if it’s not purchased, then we get a discount after the wedding to buy them ourselves. If you’d like a honeymoon fund, then add it. If people would like to contribute they will and if not then they won’t. I also wouldn’t add any items you do not want! I was doing that before because my mom said I’d need it but I knew we’d NEVER use it. Once you push aside expectations or traditional things, picking items or even making other wedding decisions will become a lot easier. Oh also! If you do add larger priced items, there are group options. Say you put something that’s $500, someone can contribute as much as they’d like towards that item! Best of luck 💜
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