Wedding registry

We have lived together for 4 years, but some stuff are things I got back in college. We are using the registry as a way to get upgrades on certain items (better quality knives, new cookware, etc).

Honeyfunds exist, but they are very polarizing. Some people think they're fine and others find them tacky. That's different a know your crowd kind of thing. If you search around these forums, Zola and Honeyfund seem to be the top 2.

My fiancé and I already live together as well. We’re viewing the registry as an opportunity to upgrade things - like nicer sheets or towels, linens for our guest room, better quality pots/pans etc. The most common items I’ve seen on registries are Kitchen Aid stand mixer, attachments for the mixer, kitchen gadgets, sheets, towels, baking dishes and pans, dishes, knives. I’ve seen people register for grills, vacuums, sporting equipment, and luggage which are nice items for group gifts. If there’s a more expensive item that you know no one will get you, I’d still register for it because most stores will give you a % off items that are left on your registry!

I’m not sure how I feel about the Honeymoon registry/funds. On the one hand, it does seem rude to ask for money to pay for your vacation. On the other hand, if you don’t need/want anything else, it’s better than ending up with a bunch of stuff you can’t/won’t use. Sorry I’m not much help with this one!

We have lived together 10 years, but we did an air fryer and kitchen tools...picture frames...towels...Nice knives.I saw some people replied they did a Ring doorbell which is kinda cool. Bed bath and beyond has almost anything you can think of

We are putting games new towels and sheets a new showe curtain and door mat. Mostly just small thing younger a new one of every few years.

We're moving in together next month. And we have to buy some of the normal registry items for ourselves. We're trying to hold off on buying some things. Like towels, and using what we have til then to "upgrade". Any thing you think you might like upgraded, like cookware. We also asked for games.

If you're not planning on having a shower, you could just opt not to register and hope people take a hint.

We were in the same boat. This is a scary question to ask on WW lol. We're doing a honeymoon fund because if we get one more appliance in our little apartment someone might have to move out lol. I don't think they're tacky, but alot of ladies here do. I would agree with the PP, it's a know your crowd. We have ours set up so it goes towards certain things for our honeymoon and doesn't look like a piggy bank.

I just went to a wedding with a honey fund type thing and I thought it was awesome! They had everything they needed so we got to spoil them on the trip of a lifetime!

Use Zola registry, they have lots of options for honeymoon fund, experiences (like dinner gift cards etc) & anything else you can think of outside of physical gifts, really.

Last 2 weddings we’ve been to had honeymoon fund & I didn't hear anybody complaining about it. You put on your registry what you need / like, it’s like a wishlist. Nobody is obligated to get anything from there if they don’t want to. One way or another people who are bringing gifts will spend money on them, so asking for a blender or for contribution to honeymoon fund, makes no difference in level of rudeness for me 😆

We're upgrading some of our items. Bathroom towels, knife block, air fryer, garden items, mixing bowls, measuring cups, sheets/comforter, cast iron pans, vacuum, etc. We also registered for some gift cards to Lowe's and restaurants for date nights.

We have also lived together for a couple years but a lot of the stuff we currently have is from college so its older/cheaper. We upgraded a lot of our kitchen items to get some nicer and newer versions.

I think honeymoon funds are fine in this case. We are in a similar situation as we have lived together in the house his family inherited from his grandparents so it was stocked full of stuff. We registered for upgraded kitchen items and bedding, Disney gift cards as that’s where we are honeymooning, and an affordable outdoor movie projector and screen. We still need to add a few more things but can’t think of much. Our venue coordinator recommended adding things needed for the wedding like a personalized cake knife, cake topper, decor, or a card box.

This is my first time ever posting/answering but this question caught my eye. My fiance and I have lived together for a couple years now and we had the same issue. I found that Honeyfund isn't the best option because it charges twice! It will charge the person gifting you a fee, and then it will charge you a fee to remove your money. It offers gift cards, but I mean, c'mon...if someone gives you money then you probably just want the money!

Then I found Blueprint registry. It is the best of both worlds in my opinion. You can add items from tons of different stores to your registry (think pinterest-it links to the other store) so you aren't locked into one store. You can also create cash funds for people to gift to. With these funds the person gifting is charge a small credit card fee, but after that the money is all yours, no games. Plus you can personalize what the money in the cash funds is for, give a little or a lot of detail, and hide the total from your guests (you don't need people feeling guilty because someone else gave more than them). You should check it out!!

Like most other posters, we've lived together for over a year now, and we are both divorced, so we have most of what we need. We are using registries as a way to upgrade things we already have and as a wishlist for things we would like. I learned Amazon lets you allow gets to contribute an amount of money toward more expensive items (you can even pick the price threshold, such as any gift over $99, or set any specific item to have contributions). We've registered for things like a stand mixer, newer kitchen gadgets, nicer sheets, a roomba, and things like that.

View Quoted Comment We are doing a land and sea Disney moon so I really just want gift cards lol

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! I’m definitely going to have to do this one.

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No problem! Another cool feature it has, is the ability to add a button to your browser. That way if you are aimlessly scrolling the internet and see something you want you can add it to your registry straight from the site you're on!

My FH and I have lived together for 2 years as well. When we first moved in together a lot of our stuff was hand me down so when we went into our registry appointment we had the thinking of what do we need new. Also, we plan on moving into a house soon instead of the apartment we are in so we thought of what we would need for a house.

So I would say just think of things you already have but want new of our some things you want but don't want to purchase yourselves! Hope this helps!

I’m also in this boat, except we’ve also upgraded a lot of our stuff recently, too. I’ve put an extra set of dishes and silverware, a cordless vacuum, and a new hand mixer (I’ve been stubbornly clinging to my old one but it’s starting to show its age).

I’d love to do a Honeyfund type thing and maybe go insane and put my most desired new photo/video toy on it - a drone that costs a ton more than I can afford right now - but my fiancé’s mom has already complained about me putting a photo printer, tripod (we need a second one cause we both do photography), and camping stuff on my registry. Last thing I need is for her to get so heavily offended by the things I put on it that she makes my fiancé take it down.

I really don’t know what to put on it, though, and people keep nagging me about it.

I am in the same boat! We have been living together for about a year and prior to that we were both living independently so we had two sets of everything already. Two sets of pans, two sets of silverware, etc.

I ended up making two registries and explaining on our website that since we have both been living on our own for several years, there were only a few home items we wanted or needed and with that in mind, we offer guests the second option of gifting us once in a lifetime experiences that we can enjoy together as newlyweds.

Registry #1 was an amazon registry that I put about 35 random things on, like two sets of silverware that we already own so that when we have guests over, we don't have to use plastic silverware anymore. I put a fancy mop thing on it that one of our friends recommended but we didn't want to spend the money on, and a new pots and pan set, and a new knife block that is way nicer than either of ours. One cool thing about amazon is that you can make it so people can put a smaller amount towards a big ticket gift so maybe if three people donated money toward the knife block, none of them would be over budget and you would still get what you want!

Registry#2 is called Wanderable! I LOVE it. It is a honeymoon registry! My fiance's dad gifted us our honeymoon trip which has been a HUGE blessing and gift and we are so excited! While on the trip, there are a bunch of things we would like to do that can be pretty costly. So we put them all on this registry and people can gift us experiences instead of a bunch of stuff that we already have! We put scuba diving on there, a sunset cruise, a brewery tour, a deep seas fishing trip, jet ski rentals, etc.!

It is so exciting and the more... modern guests coming to our wedding love the idea of giving us once in a lifetime opportunities over fancy dishes we will use twice a year and have to hand wash

Sorry for the speech!

I have lived with FH for 2 years now as well and everything we have in the kitchen is literally crap lol. I never bought mixer appliances or specialty items (we don't even have a pizza cutter) because I knew we'd get married. I am upgrading everything from flatware, dinnerware, pots, appliances (besides the microwave)! Majority of our registry is kitchen stuff. I put some cleaning items I really want like swiffer wet jet, roomba, and have one set of towels (we already have towels so didn't need much) and a new laundry basket for myself. I put some nice picture frames too. I literally can't wait til I get to open it all! I also put storage bins on because the items that are decent in our kitchen we will pack away for future kids that go off to college