Wedding rehearsal & dinner question

Typically the groom’s parents cover the cost of the dinner. It would be somewhat rude to ask your guests to pay...

You pick up the bill. That is your rehearsal dinner. Your bridal party is taking time out of their day for the rehearsal, the dinner is a thank you.

Either parents or the couple foots the bill. Make sure it is in your budget because significant others need to be invited as well. You do not ask guests to pay. Scale back to what you can afford. If that means pizza or Chinese instead of fancy steakhouse, then that is what you do. You don’t need a private room which jacks up the price.

But you are having a rehearsal dinner.

Unless a set of parents has already offered to pay for the dinner, the couple getting married picks up the tab. And what you’re describing actually is 100% a rehearsal dinner.

Just curious why you do not consider that a rehearsal dinner? I might not be following, but it will happen on the evening of your rehearsal?

View Quoted Comment It’s my parents, his parents, my sister, brother-in-law, his sister and his brother in law it’s all within the family it’s not an actual party or a nice dinner it’s in the same place as the rehearsal that’s why I didn’t really understand the concept of the “rehearsal dinner” that’s why I asked I didn’t really understand thank you all for the feedback

A rehearsal dinner is just the meal to thank your bridal party and family for taking time out of their day to rehearse for your wedding. It can be as casual or fancy as you would like, but you should always pay (unless one of your parents offer to) because it is meant as a thank you.

What you have described sounds exactly like a rehearsal dinner so you should cover it. Guests should never be expected to cover a bill for something wedding related.

If you are inviting everyone as if you are the host for a party, your guests will expect the expense to be covered. Somewhat a "know your crowd" kind of question though... Traditionally, the grooms parents organize, host, and pay for the rehearsal dinner. Since you made the reservations and are organizing the dinner that muddies the waters and you shouldn't rely on tradition. If your inlaws are contributing to the cost of your wedding they may or may not have budgeted for this. If that is the case you need to talk with them first.

A rehearsal dinner is a thank you gift for people involved in your wedding. You are expected to pay for that. If you can’t afford the restaurant then cancel the reservation and find a pizza place you can all get some pizza at.

If you're having dinner in any way shape or form on the day of your rehearsal, then that's a rehearsal dinner. You're definitely expected to pay for your guests. If you can't afford the restaurant then I'd consider having people at your home for pizza and beer

Is anybody attending the rehearsal who is not invited to the dinner? If so, they need to be.

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What you are describing is a rehearsal dinner. I don't understand why you wouldn't host the people who are attending. If the restaurant is out of your budget to host everyone, choose a less expensive option.

Just to clear up the above information, I asked the question because i wasn’t sure, first wedding and not a lot of guidance throughout the process. Thank you all for the information