Wedding roles

Have they already been asked to be groomsmen? If so, I wouldn't recommend removing them from the wedding as it can ruin relationships and it should really be up your fiance as to who his groomsmen are. If you don't want to them them as ushers and if you already have readers then I'm not sure really what else they could do.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. If they've already been asked to be groomsmen (and they accepted), there's not really a good way to remove them from that role without potentially damaging the friendship. If you're concerned about having too many people at the altar, you could always have wedding party walk down the aisle, and sit in the first or second row instead of standing at the altar (you could also just have MOH and best man stand at the altar with you and your fiance while everyone else sits)?

Being a guest is a huge honor. People who are planning don't understand that. Most people would rather have that role with no stress or responsibility.


If they are groomsmen, it is not your decision as the bride to cut them. Once they are cut, they become guests automatically. Any other role demotion is going to be a passive aggressive "screw you" even if that is not your intent. Also cutting someone from being a bridesmaid/groomsman tells them point blank this friendship/relationship is over.

There's not really anything left beyond groomsman, reader, or usher!

I'd include them as groomsmen or ask them to be ushers!!

View Quoted Comment They were not asked to be groomsmen yet and my fiancé and I made this decision together. I was just wondering if anyone had any creative ideas or options that I hadn’t thought of yet. Thank you all for your input.

View Quoted Comment Groomsman or guest. Anything in between comes across as being an afterthought who is "not good enough" even if that is not your intent.

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Since you don't want them as groomsmen, ushers, or readers, I don't really think there is another option for them. I would just have them as guests as your wedding.