Wedding Rules

I'm on the fence about the overstepping part, but here's my thoughts. As with anything, guests don't necessarily HAVE to tell you the truth. Also, if they can't do a rapid test, it can take several days to get those results. As some pointed out, they could get tested, be negative, and literally be exposed walking out of the door, and then carry it to your event. Also, there's something else floating around as well. My fiance and I were sick as hell at Thanksgiving, both of us had 2 negative tests, and he had like 8 negative tests bc his job was testing weekly. We both tested negative the weekend after Christmas, and we were both sick, and then when he went home(we don't live together), he got sick AGAIN. This time, he was on day 6 before they would even test him, and was day 11 before the results were in. Today, the health department called and sent him for chest xrays, to find out he has pneumonia due to covid. We have no idea what we had before, as covid, flu, strep, everything was negative. This time, he was fine until about day 3 and couldn't control the vomiting, and of course the loss of taste. They still weren't going to test him. It took his roommate being sick, and their 4th roommate to keep calling the HD before they finally told him and the other roommate to come test. Odd thing is, one works in a group home, where nobody has had covid, and there's been no visitors(just workers coming and going), and my fiance works for a meat processing company, and nobody else is sick right now. So, neither my fiance nor the roommate know where they got it, nor do they understand how the 3rd and 4th roommates, who have been babying them lol, have not been sick, and it's been 16 days now. Not that the other 2 aren't sure they'll catch it, and are taking precautions, it's just odd that they didn't all end up sick at once somehow.



I'm rambling, to say, you don't know when anyone will be sick, and you won't know who is supposedly a carrier, either, since most places require exposure or illness to test, and while I understand HOPING that your guests will give you their results, they don't have to, and it has no bearing on their friendship with you.

On a similar note, I’m an August bride and curious if other summer brides are collecting vaccine information for their guests. Not requiring guests to be vaccinated, or even demanding to know if individuals have been vaccinated, but allowing guests to report whether or not they’ve been fully vaccinated! I’d be curious to know what percentage of my guests are vaccinated!

Let’s be clear - it’s YOUR wedding. So it’s not overstepping. You can ask for whatever you want given the...you know...unprecedented global pandemic. However what some people may be getting at is the practicality of it all. Testing might look very different by summer (quicker hopefully!) but we just don’t know for now. My advice would be to, at the very least, include for your guests some Covid related information - symptoms to look for, that you don’t want them to attend if they don’t feel well (and that there will be no hard feelings if they decide they can’t come for fear of having any symptoms), encouraging the vaccine, etc. I plan to include info like that on my website, though I’m probably not getting married til March 2022. We have toyed with the idea of asking for proof of vaccination for attendance. I’m just here to encourage you that it’s your wedding, you’re on point for not wanting to host a super spreader event, and though there has to be tact etc, you can ask people for whatever you want to keep things safe :-)

I think maybe a footnote on the wedding website to test but without requesting the proof would be alright. Treat everyone as if they have it.. masks, distancing, no self served meals, etc. The tests will be void by the time of the wedding potentially if they were exposed to anyone on the plane, hotel, work, etc. beforehand.

I just found out that NY is going to be making a regulation where you have to either show proof of vaccination or a rapid Covid test so my reception will be that way I personally don’t see any issue with this. It makes it safe for everyone! It’s better then just taking a gamble like how it’s been going and not knowing. If people have an issue then they can simply decline. We’re not asking anyone to get vaccinated that’s a personal choice but if you have been what’s the harm in showing you have or getting a rapid to safely attend an event it protects everyone! In my opinion it would make people feel safer but I guess everyone feels differently. I will respect anyone who chooses to decline either way they know it’s a wedding with people so each guest can make a decision that’s best for themselves.

I think you can mail guests a test for their own awareness and peace of mind, but it is just not appropriate for you to be requesting and storing health information from your guests. I'm sorry.

I wouldn't attend a wedding that require that. I wouldn't even go anywhere if I'm sick anyway. That will be overstepping for real.

Now Im giving out hand sanitizer, wipes, tissue and mask to my guest. I will be giving them in welcome bags. maybe you can do something like that.

I would just ask guests that they contact you if they learn that they were exposed prior to your wedding. That way, it could remind people to stay safe and smart without overstepping.

We giving away mask and small hand sanitize bottles the color of our wedding. If you're only doing 50 guess. I would keep in touch with those 50 from here on out. Just to let them know you're concerns in a more friendly way. They all would probably agree with you its just about the delivery of what you want. Good luck

View Quoted Comment Yeap I agree

Hopefully by July everyone will be vaccinated and you won't need to worry about it!