Wedding Self Invite.

This is a tough one as it can impact your day to day life. She’s going to have something to say anyway and I’m sure the people from your place of business that you will invite will be there to put a stop to anything negative she has to say. I’m having a similar issue except the person hasn’t invited themselves they are just close to someone that I want to invite. But I’m just not inviting her. I want positive vibes only. I’m not paying for someone who doesn’t have my best interest at heart.

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That’s what I thought too then I convince myself that she’s only 1 person of 180 so

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That's a good way to think about it. It's very unlikely you'll have to deal with her a lot at the wedding. Yes, she's a pain, but it might be better long-term to have her there so you don't have to hear about it for the rest of your employment (because some people are just like that sadly)

If you invited other coworkers you’re almost bound to have to invite her. If you didn’t, you can keep it simple as it’s immediate family.

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Yes! Very true. Good luck on yours!

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Yes, sadly I invited other coworkers

View Quoted Comment Then definitely hard not to invite her.


I’m in a similar situation, I’ve invited 1 coworker, but also like a sister to me and have asked her to be my day of coordinator. My other friend keeps saying she’s going, already told her wife, etc. I’ve tried to say it’s really only a very small intimate wedding with my FH’s immediate family taking up all the space. I’m thinking I’ll HAVE to send her an invite...

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People need to realize that it's rude to do that. Yes, I would say you do have to invite her unless you really don't like her but I would say hopefully someone declines so she can squeeze in.

View Quoted Comment Oh it’s the new world we live in! LOL

My boss is lovely, but when he asked if he was invited I told him I am so sorry, but due to venue size restraints neither of us are inviting coworkers. I think you’re past the point where you can subtly discourage her from coming and I would tell her you’re sorry, but she’s not invited.

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The thing was that I love some of the coworkers that I work with and I really could not say anything to her that wouldn't sound like a lie

I'm inviting some of my FH's co-workers (my friends too over the years) but I'd never ever consider inviting my boss. None of them have ever asked. I think it's super weird when someone's boss is there. I mean my FH and I met at work and lots of people know we are together, but something about my boss seeing me kissing my husband and seeing me in a wedding dress makes me SUPER uncomfortable. I'm also an engineer and my boss is a male so maybe that has something to do with it, but yeah. I'd say don't invite your boss if you don't want to!

You don't have to invite them if you don't want them there. I'm inviting some co workers but not all of them. It's our wedding and we are the ones paying for the guests to be there...if I don't want someone there then they are not getting an invite.