Wedding Shower

I guess it depends on how big you want your shower to be/how big it can be with local COVID guidelines. If you're able to host a bigger event in July and feel comfortable inviting more people than you were initially planning on inviting, then I don't think it's bad to invite these people. It sounds like everyone understands why they aren't getting invited to the wedding but still want to support you! If you aren't comfortable or able to have a larger shower, then I think it's safe to give them your registry.

They should really be asking whoever is hosting the shower, if you’re comfortable with it I’d leave the decision to the host as it will be extra people for them also.

Following etiquette exists to avoid these awkward situations. You mentioned that they are are understanding that they are cut. That also includes being cut from the shower unfortunately. You need to be blunt. But there is no etiquette saying they can’t ask for your registry info, in which case, go ahead and give it to them because they asked.

As the bride, you don’t make hosting decisions. You provide a date of availability and a wishlist of guests who are invited to the wedding.

Have a family reunion with everyone at another time that is not related to the wedding.

They should definitely talk to your moon and/or whoever is hosting. You shouldn't need to be the one dealing with this lol. My guess is that these people still want to celebrate with you knowing that you needed to make the difficult decision to cut your guest list. If that's their thought process, I think it would be okay to invite them to the shower.

Feel free to share your registry information if they're asking directly. I still would not invite them to the shower.

I would reply that unfortunately due to current events we’ve had to downsize our guest list, it’s been incredibly hard making all of these difficult decisions. Everyone I’ve told that has been totally understanding.