We downsized from our 200+ wedding guest list to around 80 to keep the celebration more personal and intimate -- we had to cut a ton of distant friends and family. They have all been extremely understanding!
Now, our wedding shower is coming up in July and being hosted at my grandmother's. The family members who have been cut from our guest list are asking when to expect an invitation/where we are registered etc. I know it's technically bad etiquette to invite people not invited to the wedding to the shower. Any advice on if they are asking to attend knowing they aren't invited to the wedding?