Wedding Shower

You do not plan your own wedding shower. It is a party usually thrown by the bridal party as a gift for the couple/bride.

My bridesmaids and mom are throwing my shower and they asked me to register at a place and let them know where. If you're planning your own shower you can do a traditional girl only shower or more of a causal I do bbq which I've seen more common for a bride hosting her own . You have lots of time though so maybe see if anyone would be interested in hosting for you

Don’t throw your own wedding shower. It’s usually hosted by someone else. The bridal party, moms, aunts...just not you. Good luck with the wedding planning

Well it sounds to me like you want to have a wedding shower but your family is not probably going to host one. Have you maybe made the hint to your bridal party that you would like one? If you really want one and no one's going to throw or host one for you then what do you think about just hosting a bridal brunch or a bridal lunch where no gifts are expected. My maid of honor is going to host a bridal brunch for me but I'm going to help her because she's not great at planning as she said. I'm also willing to help her pay for it just do something very low-key even if it's just like continental-style breakfast.

I didn’t. Couples shouldn’t throw showers for themselves.

I agree with others about not planning a party for yourself specifically for the purpose of giving you gifts. Even in an age of "you do you," that's a major etiquette breach for a lot of people. Also, if your date is correct, your wedding is more than 18 months from now? Most shower are 1-3 months before the wedding, so I'd just not worry about it at this point. Even if there are friends or family members who will offer to host this for you, they likely won't be thinking about it for more than a year. I hosted daughter's and only started planning it 6 weeks before the date, so it's easy to remove this from your current list of concerns. Good luck!

Our friends and families planned our wedding showers.

The MOH or the bridesmaids as a group typically host the shower. Moms, aunts, or closer denial relatives can also be the hosts.


Since you’re already busy with wedding planning and your family isn’t helping with planning, either ask your bridesmaids to do it or skip the shower all together. I told my bridesmaids I don’t want one and to not plan it because I find showers boring. I really don’t get the point of them. If it’s for the gifts, people will give you gifts for the wedding anyway, why make them go to a separate event?