Wedding shower

Closest circle only. My FH & I are being given a Wedding shower as opposed to a bridal shower as well, and my FH actually only ended up inviting 8 of the women in his life he feels closest to (outside of myself of course, obviously) because that's who he would consider as 'inner circle' for an event like this. We chose to stick to all women still, as none of the guys would be as interested, but that was just a personal decision for us

We did a co-ed shower, as well, and we capped the list at 30. (That included all of our bridal party and his immediate family.) I don't recall exactly, but somewhere around 20 people were there.

Typically, guests in the area of the shower that are invited to the wedding should be invited. Are all 200 in the local area where the shower is?

The whole guest list is outrageous. I only invited my closest 5-6 friends, bridal party, and aunts/cousins.

No, do not invite your entire guest list. That's like having a pre-wedding before the wedding. Why have a wedding at all, if you're going to invite everyone to the shower?

Co-Ed showers can be a lot of fun. I've attended a few of them over the years. But in those cases, only local people from the guest list were invited. Or, if most of your guests are local, then cap it at a certain number (like 30 or 40), or you can just invite those closest to the bride and groom (like parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts/uncles, and close friends). But you have to narrow it down somehow. It's not realistic to invite everyone. First, where would you have it that could accommodate all those people? Second, who is paying for it? The list of problems goes on and on with this idea. Nope. Not going to work.