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Wedding Superstitions - Not seeing each other before the wedding

Jo, on April 17, 2018 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 47

How much do you buy into this wedding superstition ? This wedding superstition is very well known and has been around for a long time, but more and more couples are choosing to skip it. Historically this stemmed from arranged marriages, when the couple may not even have met before their wedding day....

How much do you buy into this wedding superstition ?

This wedding superstition is very well known and has been around for a long time, but more and more couples are choosing to skip it. Historically this stemmed from arranged marriages, when the couple may not even have met before their wedding day. Now, it's said to be "bad luck" if the couple see each other before the ceremony. But by opting to skip this some couples get to enjoy getting ready together, doing a nerve-calming first look, and/or taking photos before the ceremony so they can enjoy their cocktail hour with their guests.

Will you see your future spouse before the wedding, or do you think it's bad luck?


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47 Comments

  • Mrs. G
    Devoted April 2019
    Mrs. G ·
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    I’m sticking with tradition on this one! I just think there is something so beautiful about your FH not seeing you until you walk down the aisle. 😍
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    Savvy June 2018
    Cynthia ·
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    We don’t really believe in the superstition but we won’t be seeing each other until I walk down the aisle. We will be sleeping in different places the night before too. We just want that magic moment in front of our family and friends. Our almost 2 year old daughter is our flower girl and she will be carrying a sign that reads “Daddy, wait til you see Mommy”. It’s going to be a perfect moment. Our wedding is June 9th so not much longer to go. Can’t wait!
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  • Cassie
    Super April 2018
    Cassie ·
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    We are spending the night apart but we are doing a first look in the morning. Would much rather have that moment that seeing each other walking down the aisle!

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  • Brenda
    Devoted May 2018
    Brenda ·
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    I wanted to do this and my FH wanted a first look. Due to our time frame and pictures it made more sense to have a first look so that’s what we’re doing instead.
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    Super January 2019
    PalmTrees ·
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    I do not believe it’s bad luck.
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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    We aren't doing a first look, but we are having a cocktail hour before our ceremony, so he will see me (not in my dress in a simple white dress) before the actual walk down the aisle.

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  • Jacquelyn
    Dedicated October 2018
    Jacquelyn ·
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    My fiancé couldn’t believe I even asked lol. It was a hard pass for him on the first look. He’s adamant lol. We will be staying the night together, but at 7am he will be heading to our sons’ hotel room. I thought it was kind of adorable he didn’t want to anger the wedding gods lol

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  • LoveAlwaysWin
    Devoted August 2018
    LoveAlwaysWin ·
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    I am definitely following this superstition. We both agree we want to see one another when I am walking down the aisle
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  • Victorian Bride
    Master April 2023
    Victorian Bride ·
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    I don't think it's bad luck, but we are very traditional and want to see each other in the church. Can't wait to see FH's face. Smiley smile
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  • L
    Devoted July 2019
    Lexi ·
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    We will be seeing each other before the ceremony (first look). I feel like he will be more emotional compared to when he's around 100+ people seeing me the first time. I also feel like it will be more intimate. Also, the day before the wedding we will be spending the night together which I know is another superstition. woops

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  • Laura
    Champion June 2010
    Laura ·
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    We did see each other before the wedding. He saw me come in when I arrived at the venue to get dressed, and then we did a first look before the ceremony. We're just not very superstitious!

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  • Jessica
    Super May 2019
    Jessica ·
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    No first look because FH is super against it for some silly reason. We'll spend the night before together as always, but won't see each other once we get to the venue until I walk down the aisle.

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    We are still deciding on this. He is for not seeing each other and I'm against it. We'll be in Vegas and I don't want to have to get 2 rooms and the wedding doesn't start till 4:30 so I feel like I'll just be ansy waiting to see him all day. I know I'll be busy getting ready but it won't take me that long. I want to have lunch with him and relax with him beforehand. I definitely don't want him to see me in the dress till I'm walking down the isle but the first half of the day I'd love to spend with him.

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  • rica
    VIP September 2018
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    I like the traditional aspect of this. We won't be seeing each other as we are getting ready or do a first look. But I think we will sleep together the night before and have a quick breakfast together before parting ways. We considered spending the night apart, but I think it would be more relaxing and enjoyable to have a quiet night and morning instead. But from the moment I start getting ready, I don't want him to see me until I walk down the aisle!

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  • S
    Just Said Yes July 2018
    Shanice ·
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    My FH and I will not see each other the day before the wedding. He’s not into the superstition, but I believe it brings good juju to the nuptials.
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    Just Said Yes May 2018
    Alyssa ·
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    Definitely have heard this, and I'm still ups on it. I've seen were the photographers take photos before the wedding of a sneak peak of the bride and groom seeing each other before the wedding so you can actually get the emotions of them looking at each other rather trying to hold it in while everyone is looking, still dont know whether or not to do sneak peak or no.
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    Just Said Yes August 2018
    Shanna ·
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    I believe in not seeing the dress till the ceremony but I plan on sleeping next to him the night before because if not then I won't sleep at all. So yeah I guess I will see him before the wedding.
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  • T
    Beginner May 2018
    Tiffany ·
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    I refuse to show my husband my dress,etc. We will be seeing each other that morning but after that, I won't be at the hall before walking down, and he won't see me until I physically walk down.
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  • FutureMrsCork
    Devoted July 2018
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    My FH was all about tradition at first, but once the photographer explained why a first love gives a chance for better couple photos, he was okay with it.
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  • Katie
    Just Said Yes October 2018
    Katie ·
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    I absolutely believe the first time you see each other on the wedding day should be when you are coming down the aisle. I think it is just such a special moment to see each other that way. Our photographer talked to us about a first look and we both nixed the idea right away.
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