Wedding thank you’s

3 months tops, but really ASAP. We got ours out right around the 2 month mark.

I would say a couple months - like enough time to get photos back and order online if your going that route - I went to a wedding on June 2nd and haven't received a thank you yet for the gift... I am just hoping they actually got it and it didn't go missing!

3 months is proper. Used to be 1 year recommended.

I'm at the 6 week mark and have 80% of mine done. We will for sure have this task done by 2 months. I think proper etiquette is 3 months but sooner makes me happier :-)

Send ASAP but definitely within a 2-3 months after receiving the gift. The “1 year” thing is how long after the wedding people traditionally have to send a gift. Thank yous should always go out right away.

There’s that antiquated “1 year rule” that your brother probably used as an excuse but I would say up to 2 months is appropriate. I just got married 3 weeks ago and honestly would have already sent mine but I’m impatiently waiting for my pictures from my photographer so we can do the thank yous with a pic on them. Everyone at or wedding was so generous I’d be mortified for them to think that I didn’t appreciate their gifts be sending thank yous a year later.

Nope, that's incredibly rude in my opinion. I would say 3 months max to get your cards out. I wouldn't be happy if I were you, but I guess a super super late thank you card is better than none?

My FH was in his cousin's wedding last October as a groomsman. Money spent on bachelor party and suit, plus other things. Gave them a card with a lot of money in it at the wedding. Waited for a thank you card for months. Thought maybe it got lost in the mail. Got thank you cards from people whose weddings we went to in November and December. Finally, in June of this year, we get a card. First, it's addressed to only FHs name, not mine. The card is a normal folded thank you card. Open it up, there's nothing handwritten inside. It's just stamped with a pre-made stamp that says "thank you, the *couples names*, *wedding date*". Not even signed from them. Just a stamp. They were so lazy they couldn't even send us a real, personal thank you card. I understand it sucks to handwrite so many cards to people, especially if you have like 100+ to do. But jeez. For people to come out and support you in your marriage and give you gifts and you can't take 30 minutes a night for a week or two to write cards to everyone? That just pisses me off. Sorry, late thank you cards is clearly a sore subject for me 😂 I will make sure mine don't take longer than a month to be written and get sent out, as we're not going on a honeymoon right after the wedding.

I think people confuse the 1 year to send a gift with when to send thank you notes. Thank you should be sent as soon as possible after receiving a gift. We sent all our thank yous within a month of the wedding or two weeks of receiving a gift (we got a number of gifts before the wedding). That being said, I would take a late note over no note at all.

View Quoted Comment Totally agree! I got a thank you from my cousins wedding in a timeley manner except they also had a generic thank you message printed inside. My mom was MAD. She had given them $500 (not counting what my FH and I gave her and my sister and her boyfriend) and hadn’t even been important enough to get a handwritten note?
I’m normally pretty easygoing but even I was offended by my generic card as well. It’s just rude and makes guests feel like they don’t matter and you didn’t appreciate their generosity or presence at your wedding

View Quoted Comment I feel the same way! I get a little too salty about it, but I just love a handwritten note, especially when you were part of the wedding party!

My future brother-in-law and his wife did the same after they got married. It was seriously... almost a year before we got the Thank You card. For gifts sent before the wedding, I have read that the Thank You should be sent within 2 weeks. For post wedding, I would say that 2-3 months max is the timeline.
We are getting married beginning of November and then 2 weeks later leave for a 3 week honeymoon and return mid-December. So my goal is to have them mailed by the end of the year. So people won't be getting Christmas Cards from me this year.

3-4 months. Is it bad to send later? Yes. But always better to send late than not at all

Three weeks. Handwritten, specific, and personal. Snail mail.