Wedding Traditions that Must Die

I am with Anna & Rebecca on the garter and bouquet toss.

I definitely am not all for my FH sticking his hand up my dress in front of my Grampy!

I can't believe I almost missed this post!

Giving away of the bride, hands down! I am not my father's property, and I will not be my husband's either.

If I could choose a second, freezing the top layer of cake for the 1 year anniversary... yuck.

I would have to say akward toasts. I went to two different weddings and the inside jokes weren't funny at all! The maid of honor at the second wedding was cracking jokes about the bride's sexuality. She was also tipsy...I almost boo'ed her ass out of there! Lol

I tried the whole freezing the top layer for the 1st anniversary from 2nd wedding and like @sarah m Yuck!!!

I hate the traditional vows. And I also think getting rid of the receiving line will be in place at my wedding. I have been through a few and its just awkward. What are they even there for?

I hate receiving lines too, my friend and his wife had everyone stay in their pew and they came to each row and gave hugs/thanks and then moved on. It's nice to acknowledge people before they leave the ceremony just in case they aren't coming to the reception but let people relax while they wait to see the bride and groom and who needs to say hi to the rest of the WP, that is what the reception is for.

I also dislike not being able to see FH before the wedding, if I could i would do the first look and pictures before the ceremony but he's too old fashioned and won't have it.

We are not doing recieving line, garter or bouquet toss, toasts, parent dances or group dance songs. Also, people can clink their glasses all they want. I'll kiss him when I feel like it.

However, I like the idea of being given away. No one REALLY thinks you are property. To me it's a sweet moment for my pops to let my FH know he gives us his blessing.

I hate the idea of having to not only do a receiving line but also circulate the tables all evening ... honestly I just want to do a damn receiving line say thank you for coming, thank you, blah blah blah blah, when I get to the reception, I want to eat, I want to drink and for goodness sake I want to dance ...

Or or ... I'm not allowed to do anything on my own that day ... that's what my MOH and my BMs are for ... ummm hello they are not my slaves and I can go to the ladies room on my own just fine thank you ...

okay that was 2 but those 2 plus the one not seeing the groom before hand kinda get me going ...

Taking the traditional wedding vows and revising them and taking the word "OBEY" out of them.

I have more than one...

Dollar Dance
Receiving Line
Toasts
the Ceremony Unity thing (you know, with a candle or goblet or sand....stupid and time consuming IMHO).
Extremely Coreographed Bridal Party dances
Group Dance Songs
FGs and RBs (young one's at least..sorry, I just don't view them as necessity and both weddings I've been to where children were present at least one kid threw a tantrum in the middle of the aisle...if they're the Bride's and/or Groom's kids that could be an exception)

Edited to add: No more traditional vows...too many people speak them and then break them. Plus I don't believe in "til death do we part." It's all or nothing!

The giving the bride away thing I don't mind. I know I'm not property and so do Dad and John, but it's a sweet moment being able to kiss my Dad on the cheek before he puts my hand into John's...I almost want to tear up now. lol

I'm picky heehee

The receiving line is out. My sister chose to do it for her wedding and it took way too long.

Chicken Dance. Yup.... not a fan at all.

This is hard. I can only choose one?

I saw Showers. I never attend them and I didn't have one myself. Getting gifts are great but just cause your getting married doesn't mean you need to give you gifts.

Also hate receiving lines and the "last night as a single man" bachelor parties.

Ouu...Also agree with Sarah M.> Not being given away. And more on that note being announced as Mr. and Mrs. Derek Lauzon. I am not Mrs. Derek Lauzon. I am Mrs. Christine Lauzon. I am not his property either.

and also the something new, something used, something borrowed and something blue.

AW! THank you Tara! I just saw your comment!!! ANd Ms. Carole! I'm glad we see eye to eye on this...it's soooo annoying!!! Why can't I see him? Bad luck? Well, that's our thing! (If you knew our life stories, you'd know!)

I have a lot!

The ones we aren't doing

1. we are not only seeing each other before, we are sleeping in the same bed the night before and will probably consumate the marriage that morning (I assume that evening we will be too tired).

2. receiving line

3. garter (so no garter toss) and no bouquet toss

4. grand exit, we are leaving on the last bus back to the hotel to continue partying at the hotel bar.

What I would love to not do, but we are doing anyway

1. formal dances beyond first dance, so mother/son, father/daughter. It takes so much time and the audience really does not want to sit and stare at people dancing for 15 minutes

2. tossing food/petals/bubbles/etc on the couple as they walk out the door. 3. White dresses, very few people really look good in white/ivory and even less are still virgins at the alter, so let's go back to wearing colors!

4. Diamond engagement rings. They are nice, but I would like to see more gem stones in the mix.

I am ditching the receiving line too. It actually was one wedding tradition that FMIL was also OK with my ditching, so that was good!