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Wedding vs First House!

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Audrey, on October 16, 2017 at 6:24 PM

So, I know this topic is semi wedding related and also is kind of a no brained. But FH and I found a house we like and it's a great price. But besides that, we are able to put an offer down on it! If we put the offer on the house and end up getting it, then we can't have the wedding we have been...

So, I know this topic is semi wedding related and also is kind of a no brained. But FH and I found a house we like and it's a great price. But besides that, we are able to put an offer down on it!

If we put the offer on the house and end up getting it, then we can't have the wedding we have been planning for. Side note: wedding is still in early stages. We have our venue site deposit and photographer and that's it.

I know it's pretty obvious that a house comes first! But I just needed to vent about it!! It's such a scary step and as selfish as it sounds, I don't want to give up my wedding that we're planning (again, I know the house is more important than a wedding!!!)

Thanks for being a place to vent!!

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SpringBride2018 · on October 17, 2017 at 9:05 AM
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FH and I bought our house a year before getting engaged. It was just the right time for us. I would highly recommend buying a house over having the wedding. Plus, you could always push the wedding back and still have the wedding of your dreams!
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futuremrsddub · on October 17, 2017 at 2:54 PM
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Honestly, having just bought a house a couple months ago and planning a wedding that's days away (with everyone stressing me out to the point a blood vessel burst in my eye over this past weekend), I wish we'd done a small destination wedding or eloped so we'd have more money to go towards the house in terms of our projects we want to do over the next couple of years.
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Just Said Yes October 2017
FutureFinkle · on October 17, 2017 at 2:57 PM
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You could always get the house, marry at a courthouse and dinner with family and friends you'd want around and then in the future you can do your big wedding that you've always wanted!
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Keisha · on October 17, 2017 at 3:00 PM
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Before we purchased our house we had like 4 spreadsheets going of costs to make sure we could still save and live. You do not want to be house poor. A house will suck your savings dry with maintenance and upkeep. Make sure you have that money put away as well
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FromOToP · on October 17, 2017 at 3:00 PM
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We're in the process of doing both right now, as well. We're actually supposed to close on Friday, but they've pushed us back to the 30th. DARN APPRAISER. Anyways, we can't move the wedding back unless I want to live in the house by myself longer (FH's family is very religious, doesn't believe in living together before marriage, whatever) and we don't want to risk losing the house either. We're going to be saving every little penny we can to hopefully have the wedding we are wanting and hoping for!
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Megan · on October 17, 2017 at 3:07 PM
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Realtor here...the house is a much more important investment, fiscally speaking. I'd forgo the big wedding in lieu of future financial security if it were me.
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Melody · on October 17, 2017 at 3:10 PM
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@Rachel.... You should definitely tell your guests that you are already married AND it's no longer a wedding but a renewal and a registry is considered rude If your guest don't know they are just buying a gift instead of a wedding gift.
@OP, weigh the pros and cons. Me personally I would probably try to find a way to do both. Scale back on the wedding to make it more feasible.
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CJ325 · on October 17, 2017 at 3:19 PM
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I think if you skipped the house and had the wedding, you might really regret it! Sounds like you really love this house and I think you know what you want to do. Once you're in the house, start putting away whatever money you can towards a wedding (with a pushed-out date). If you decide to go for the house, good luck!! Be sure to let us know if you get it.
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