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Just Said Yes November 2019

Wedding vs No Wedding?

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Ally, on May 16, 2019 at 12:03 PM

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I'm in desperate need of help. I am in the midst of planning a wedding and I am at the point of tears and ready to throw in the towel. Wedding planning is supposed to be fun right? Why am I literally hating every second of it? I'm getting married November 16, so I have exactly 6 months to finish...

I'm in desperate need of help.

I am in the midst of planning a wedding and I am at the point of tears and ready to throw in the towel.

Wedding planning is supposed to be fun right? Why am I literally hating every second of it?

I'm getting married November 16, so I have exactly 6 months to finish planning thing thing and Im about ready to go to the courthouse. My fiance has been adamant about just going to the courthouse and going on a trip from the very beginning, but I've always wanted the wedding like my friends have had. I should've took the offer when I had the chance.

I just feel like we are financially stuck, we just bought a house last August, I graduated school in December and got a full time job. So we are getting on our feet and don't have an abundance of money to poor into this thing.

I, thankfully, have a family member that has a venue that she is giving to us as a wedding gift and I already bought my dress and have the photographer. I just feel like I have still so much to do, but not enough money to do it with.

When I picture my wedding I'm really only concerned with Jacob waiting for me at the end of the aisle and my 2 best friends standing beside me, is that worth it to go in debt over?

What are my other options beside the wedding?

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Devoted August 2021
· on May 17, 2019 at 5:43 PM
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Great feedback! I took some notes, lol!
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VIP October 2019
Jessica · on May 17, 2019 at 7:09 PM
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Your welcome! Lol I know more too! Girl, our budget was $5,000 (we can afford more but both feel its kinda foolish to spend that much on one single day when there are other things we'd like to spend it on!

I've also found super cute jewelry for myself and BP on Ebay and at Cititrends. Not sure if Cititrends is nationwide or not but it's a cheap store with cute name brand and off brand stuff. I bought my bridesmaids Rampage cubic zirconia studs today. It was 3 pair for $1.99 in descending sizes so I bought a set for each of my girls. Also found shoes for my flower girls from there. They are from Ltd. Too and only cost $6 each. I know it varies from store to store, like there are two in the town I live in, one is ok the other awful but the one in the town i work in is AWESOME.

I make good money but LOVE coming across a good deal. I wish there was a forum group on WE just for 'Ways to cut costs'.
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VIP October 2019
Jessica · on May 17, 2019 at 7:18 PM
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I totally agree with most of this by Deborah as well. Another suggestion for the photographer, if you don't have a friend or someone who can do like Deb said, look on FB Marketplace. Put an add up saying your looking for a reasonably priced photographer, maybe someone just starting out, and go from there. You can also just search in marketplace for a photographer. This cuts down tremendously on price.

And Deborah, I love that your last line. That's so true. Dont forget WHY your getting married. Because your in love. Center EVERYTHING around that.
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Katie · on May 17, 2019 at 7:34 PM
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I totally get where you're coming from! I didn't think a Spotify list and speakers would be such a terrible idea, but my sister and like 4 friends have made me feel so foolish

"DJs make the party! How are you going to get people to dance?!"
"They don't have to dance..."
"Well then what are people supposed to DO? People want to dance at weddings!!"

It's like...wait a minute, they CAN dance but they don't HAVE to. If they want dance to they will...why do I need to pay $1200 for a DJ to make people dance if I don't care of they dance?? Lmao sooo confusing!
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Devoted September 2020
Katie · on May 17, 2019 at 7:40 PM
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Do you know how many people the 3 tier cake serves??
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Leigh · on May 17, 2019 at 9:28 PM
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Oh man I feel the same way about djs. I don’t want to dance and I don’t care if other people do. So much money for something I don’t care about at all.
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